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We all know this, and yet, in the checklisted childhood,
我們都已經清楚，在清單式童年中，
we absolve our kids of doing the work of chores around the house,
我們不讓孩子做家里的雜活，
and then they end up as young adults in the workplace still waiting for a checklist,
當他們長大進入職場，還在等待一個清單，
but it doesn't exist, and more importantly, lacking the impulse,
但這個清單并不存在，更重要的是，他們缺乏動力和意識，
the instinct to roll up their sleeves and pitch in and look around and wonder, how can I be useful to my colleagues?
不能挽起袖子去開干，不能望向四周并心想，我怎樣才能幫上同事們的忙？
How can I anticipate a few steps ahead to what my boss might need?
我怎樣才能提前一步預見到老板的要求？
A second very important finding from the Harvard Grant Study said that happiness in life comes from love,
哈弗格蘭特研究的另一個重要發現，人生的幸福來自于愛，
not love of work, love of humans: our spouse, our partner, our friends, our family.
不是對工作的愛，是對人的愛：我們的配偶，我們的伙伴，我們的朋友，我們的家庭。
So childhood needs to teach our kids how to love, and they can't love others if they don't first love themselves,
所以我們要教孩子如何去愛，要愛別人他們要先學會愛自己，
and they won't love themselves if we can't offer them unconditional love.
想要他們愛自己，我們就要給予他們無條件的愛。
Right. And so, instead of being obsessed with grades and scores when our precious offspring come home from school
是的。所以放下對成績和分數的癡迷，當我們親愛的孩子放學回家，
or we come home from work, we need to close our technology, put away our phones,
或者我們下班回家，我們要關掉電子設備，把手機放到一邊，
and look them in the eye and let them see the joy that fills our faces when we see our child for the first time in a few hours.
看著他們的眼睛，讓他們看到我們臉上洋溢的喜悅，就像第一次看到我們初生的孩子。
And then we have to say, "How was your day? What did you like about today?"
然后我們應該說，“你今天過得怎樣？今天有什么高興的事嗎？”
And when your teenage daughter says, "Lunch," like mine did,
然后你的女兒會說，“午飯”，就像我女兒一樣，
and I want to hear about the math test, not lunch, you have to still take an interest in lunch.
但我想聽到的是數學考試，不是午飯，但你還是得表現出對午飯的興趣，
You gotta say, "What was great about lunch today?"
你應該說，“今天的午飯哪里比較棒？”
They need to know they matter to us as humans, not because of their GPA.
他們需要知道，他們本身對我們很重要，而不是他們的學習成績。
