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You know, I didn't set out to be a parenting expert.
我從沒想過做一個育兒專家。
In fact, I'm not very interested in parenting, per Se.
事實上，我本身對育兒也沒什么興趣。
It's just that there's a certain style of parenting these days that is kind of messing up kids,
只是因為當今有一種育兒方式會把孩子搞得一團糟，
impeding their chances to develop into theirselves.
阻礙他們個人特質的培養。
There's a certain style of parenting these days that's getting in the way.
這種育兒方式，正大行其道。
I guess what I'm saying is, we spend a lot of time being very concerned about parents
我想說的是，我們花了很多精力去擔心父母
who aren't involved enough in the lives of their kids and their education or their upbringing, and rightly so.
沒有足夠參與到孩子的人生、教育以及養育過程中，這理所當然。
But at the other end of the spectrum, there's a lot of harm going on there as well,
但如果走上另一個極端，也會有很多壞處，
where parents feel a kid can't be successful unless the parent is protecting and preventing
比如家長認為，孩子自己不可能成功，除非父母可以隨時保護和糾正，
at every turn and hovering over every happening, and micromanaging every moment,
關注孩子的每件小事，掌控他們的每個細節，
and steering their kid towards some small subset of colleges and careers.
引導他們進入名牌大學，找到好工作。
When we raise kids this way, and I'll say we, because Lord knows, in raising my two teenagers,
當我們這樣養育孩子，我用的是“我們”，因為上帝知道，在養育我的兩個十來歲孩子的時候，
I've had these tendencies myself, our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood.
我自己確實也有這種傾向，讓我們的孩子過一種清單式的童年。
