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"I could not have been a good wife to 'Steve Jobs,' the icon," she later explained.
“對于史蒂夫·喬布斯這樣一個標志性人物，我不會是個好妻子，”她后來解釋說，
"I would have sucked at it on many levels. In our personal interactions, I couldn't abide his unkindness.
“我可能經常會搞砸。在我們相處時，我受不了他的不仁慈。
I didn't want to hurt him, yet I didn't want to stand by and watch him hurt other people either. It was painful and exhausting."
我不想傷害他，但我也不想站在一邊看著他傷害別人。那很痛苦，很累。”
After they broke up, Redse helped found OpenMind, a mental health resource network in California.
他們分手后，萊德斯幫助建立了OpoiMind網站，這是加利福尼亞一個精神健康資源網絡。
She happened to read in a psychiatric manual about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and decided that Jobs perfectly met the criteria.
她碰巧讀到了一本關于“自戀人格障礙”的精神病學手冊，發現喬布斯完全符合其中的描述。
"It fits so well and explained so much of what we had struggled with,
“簡直太符合了，充分解釋了我們曾經面臨的難題，
that I realized expecting him to be nicer or less self-centered was like expecting a blind man to see," she said.
這讓我認識到，期待他更友善或別那么以自我為中心，就像期待一個盲人可以看見世界一樣。”她說，
"It also explained some of the choices he'd made about his daughter Lisa at that time.
“這也解釋了當時他對他女兒麗薩的一些做法。
I think the issue is empathy— the capacity for empathy is lacking."
我想問題出在憐憫心上——他缺失了憐憫的能力。”
Redse later married, had two children, and then divorced.
萊德斯后來結婚了，有了兩個孩子，然后離婚了。
Every now and then Jobs would openly pine for her, even after he was happily married.
一直以來，喬布斯都會時不時地公開表達對她的思念，即使是在他幸福地結婚之后。
And when he began his battle with cancer, she got in touch again to give support.
當他開始跟癌癥斗爭之后，她又跟他恢復了聯絡，給他支持。
She became very emotional whenever she recalled their relationship.
每當她回憶起他們的相戀，都會很動情。
"Though our values clashed and made it impossible for us to have the relationship we once hoped for," she told me,
“雖然我們的價值觀有沖突，讓我們沒辦法像曾經希望的那樣在一起，”她告訴我，
"the care and love I felt for him decades ago has continued."
“可我幾十年前對他的關心和愛卻一直持續下來。”
Similarly, Jobs suddenly started to cry one afternoon as he sat in his living room reminiscing about her.
同樣，一個下午，喬布斯在他的起居室里回憶起她時，突然哭了起來。
"She was one of the purest people I've ever known," he said, tears rolling down his cheeks.
“她是我見過的最純潔的人，”他說著，淚水從他的臉頰滾落，
"There was something spiritual about her and spiritual about the connection we had."
“她身上有種靈魂的力量，我們之間精神相通。”
He said he always regretted that they could not make it work, and he knew that she had such regrets as well.
他說他一直很遺憾他們沒能走下去，他知道她也同樣感到遺憾。
But it was not meant to be. On that they both agreed.
但這是命中注定的。他們兩人對此亦有共識。
