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Whitney'ed wants to know...
Whitney'ed想知道：
"My friend is really unhealthy and it worries me. How do I go about helping her without hurting her feelings?"
“我朋友非常不健康，這讓我很擔心。在不傷害她感情的情況下，我應該怎么幫助她？”
If she's eating something, smack it out of her hand and say, (energetically) "That's the wrong cookie! Aaaah!"
如果她在吃東西，把她手里的吃的打掉，跟她說（精力充沛地）：“你不能吃這個餅干！啊！”
Take her to the doctor so then she feels better.
帶她去看醫生，這樣她會感覺好些。
Give them broccoli, because it's healthy and it'll make them feel better.
讓她吃花椰菜，因為花椰菜很健康，這會讓她感覺好些。
I just suggest healthier things for us to do. Like, instead of staying inside and playing a video game or something, I'd ask them if they wanted to go for a hike.
我建議做更健康的事情。不要呆在室內玩電子游戲，我建議去外面徒步旅行。
Subtle suggestions once in a while to your friend so you won't chase her away might help.
偶爾給你朋友提一些小建議，你不把她趕走可能會有幫助。
Get her alone. Talk to her about it. And then from there, figure out what you can do to help her.
讓她一個人待著。和她談一談。然后弄清楚你怎么能幫助她。
Say, "Hi. So I just don't want you to eat unhealthy anymore. I've noticed that you've been doing that." And help her through that. Help her try to be more fit.
跟她說：“嗨。我希望你不要再吃不健康的食物了。我注意到你的飲食一直很不健康。”幫助她改正這個問題。幫她變得更健康。
Sometimes her health at this point might be more important than her feelings. It's like tough love. You might have to hurt them a little bit to do what's best for them overall.
現在她的健康比她的感情更重要。這是嚴厲的愛。為了做對他們來說最好的事情，你可能必須要對他們造成一些傷害。
Say, "I'm here to help you. What you're going through isn't really healthy. And I'm here to help." It might also help to get other friends and family involved.
對她說：“我來幫助你。你現在的生活很不健康。我來幫你”。讓其他朋友和家人一起幫忙可能會有幫助。
Make sure you're offering to help and not just say, "You need help." Like, make sure you're saying, "If you need anything from me, or if you want me to go with you to anything, you need me to take you somewhere..." Be supportive. Be considerate of her feelings. And make sure that you don't seem abrasive or condescending towards her feelings.
確保你有提供幫助，而不是只是說“你需要幫助”。你要說：“你需要我做什么？或者你想讓我和你一起做什么，你想讓我帶你去哪里……”要鼓勵她。要考慮到她的感情。確保你沒有傷害她的感情，沒有自以為高人一等。
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