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Can you imagine a basketball game without the law of gravity? I am not talking about Michael Jordan, but for the .
你能想象沒有萬有引力情況下的籃球賽嗎? 我不是在說喬丹 而是普通人
We accept it and we create games around it. And yet we don't do the same when it comes to our emotions.
我們接受它 并利用它發明游戲 然而說到情緒時 我們卻不這么做
Now here is the key point: Painful emotions are as much as part of human nature.
這是關鍵點 人類本性的痛苦情緒
As the law of gravity is part of physical nature. And nature to be commanded must be obeyed.
一如物理世界的萬有引力定律 號令自然 必須遵守自然
And the aeronautics engineer who wants to build an airplane has to obey.
航空航天工程師 想制造飛機 必須遵守
Take into consideration, learn it, study and understand the law of gravity.
加以考慮學習研究理解萬有引力定律
The same applies to a psychologist. The constrained view of human nature.
心理學家也是如此，人類本性受約束的觀點
Nature to be commanded must be obeyed. And yet we don't do that.
號令自然 必須遵守自然 然而我們卻不那么做
We don't do in our culture. And we pay a high price for it.
我們的文化不那么做 為此我們付出高昂代價
We have what I called, the great deception. We are people who ask, So how are you doing.
我們正在經歷我所謂的大騙局 我們是那種嘴上說你好嗎?
And we say, Fine. Just great. Well in fact, we are not doing so well.
嘴上說很好，棒極了，事實上我們不是那么好
More appropriate would be I'm going through a rough patch now. I'm going through a hard time. I'm really stressed.
更合適的回應是我正經歷不順 恰逢困境 我很難受
But yet, we don't want to admit that. We don't give ourselves the permission to be human.
然而我們不想承認事實，我們不準許自己為人
Because we think there is something wrong with us if we experience these emotions.
因為我們覺得是自己有毛病，如果我們有這樣的情緒
