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You see, as a young woman in these situations, you have two options.
你們看，作為一個年輕女人遇到這些狀況，你有兩個選擇。
You can either decide to internalize these negative messages that are being thrown at you,
你可以決定去內化這些被丟在你身上的負面訊息，
to let them make you feel like a failure,
任憑他們讓你自我貶低，
like success is way too hard to ever achieve,
就像成功是遙不可及般的，
or you can choose to see that others' negativity is their own issue,
或者你可以選擇去看待：別人的負面能量是他們自己的問題，
and instead transform it into your own personal fuel.
而取而代之地轉換這些變成你的個人動力。
I have learned to always go for option two,
我已經學會總是選第二個選擇，
and I have found that it has taken me from strength to strength.
然后我發現這帶領我不斷強大。
And it's true what they say: success is the best revenge.
而他們說得是正確的：成功就是最好的復仇
Some women in the Middle East are lucky enough to be married to someone supportive of their career.
有些中東的女性夠幸運地可以嫁給某個支持她職業生涯的人
Correction: I should say "smart enough,"
修正一下，我應該說是夠聰明
because who you marry is your own choice,
因為你嫁的人是你的選擇，
and you'd better marry someone supportive if you plan to have a long career.
而你最好可以嫁給很支持你的人，如果你計劃要有很長的職業生涯。
Still today, the Arab man is not an equal contributor in the home.
時至今日，阿拉伯男姓在家中仍不是個公平的貢獻者。
It's simply not expected by our society, and even frowned upon as not very manly.
在我們的社會簡而易見地不被期待，甚至會因為沒有男人味而被人不滿。
As for the Arab woman, our society still assumes
對阿拉伯女性來說，我們的社會仍然認為
that her primary source of happiness should be the happiness and prosperity of her children and husband.
阿拉伯女性主要的幸福快樂應該來自于她小孩與丈夫的幸福與成功。
She mostly exists for her family.
她幾乎是為了她的家庭而存在。
Things are changing, but it will take time.
事態正在改變，但這會需要些時間。
For now, it means that the professional Arab woman has to somehow maintain the perfect home,
現在來說，它代表著職業阿拉伯女性必須以某種方法維持她的完美家庭，
make sure that her children's every need is being taken care of and manage her demanding career.
確保她孩子的每個需求都有被照顧到，然后經營她耗費盡精力的職業生涯。
To achieve this, I have found the hard way that you need to apply your hard-earned professional skills to your personal life.
為了完成這項成就，我發現了難處在于你需要在你的私生活中去運用你得來不易的職業技能。
You need to work your life.
你需要巧妙地安排你的生活。
Here is how I do this in my personal life.
以下就是我在我個人生活中做的事.
