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Our son Burhan is five years old, and he's learning to read and do basic maths.
我們的兒子Burhan現年5歲，而他正在學習閱讀和作基礎運算。
Here's another confession:
這是我另一個懺悔：
I have found that our daughter is actually more successful at teaching him these skills than I am.
我發現我們的女兒實際上比起我更成功地在教他這些技能。
It started as a game, but Alia loves playing teacher to her little brother,
這是從一場游戲里開始的，而Alia愛上去扮演她弟弟的老師，
and I have found that these sessions actually improve Burhan's literacy,
而我發現到這些活動實際上改善了Burhan的讀寫能力，
increase Alia's sense of responsibility, and strengthen the bonding between them, a win-win all around.
增加了Alia的責任感，也強化了他們之間的連結，一切是雙贏的局面。
The successful Arab women I know have each found their unique approach to working their life
我所知道的成功的阿拉伯女性，個個都發現他們獨特的方法去安排他們的生活，
as they continue to shoulder the lion's share of responsibility in the home.
當他們繼續去承擔最大部分的家庭責任的時候。
But this is not just about surviving in your dual role as a career woman and mother.
但這不僅僅是關于在你的作為一個職業女性與一個母親的雙重角色下存活，
This is also about being in the present.
這也是關于當下的生活。
When I am with my children, I try to leave work out of our lives.
當我跟孩子在一起時，我嘗試讓工作離開我們的生活。
Instead of worrying about how many minutes I can spend with them every day,
與其擔心有多少時間我每天可以陪著他們，
I focus on turning these minutes into memorable moments,
我專注在把這些分分秒秒都變成難忘的片刻。
moments where I'm seeing my kids, hearing them, connecting with them.
這些時刻我正在看我的孩子，聆聽他們，與跟他們連結。
Arab women of my generation have not been very visible in the public eye as they grew up.
我這代的阿拉伯女性在他們成長時在大眾眼中不是很引人注目。
This explains, I think, to some extent, why you find so few women in politics in the Arab world.
這些描述，我認為，在某種程度上解釋了為什么你發現在阿拉伯世界的政治人物中只有極少數的女性。
The upside of this, however, is that we have spent a lot of time developing a social skill behind the scenes,
好處是，我們花費許多時間，在幕后發展社交技巧，
in coffee shops, in living rooms, on the phone, a social skill that is very important to success: networking.
在咖啡店，在客廳，在電話中，有一種社交技巧是對成功來說是非常重要的：建立人脈。
I would say the average Arab woman has a large network of friends and acquaintances.
我要說一般阿拉伯女性有很廣的朋友與泛泛之交人脈。
The majority of those are also women.
而大部分也都是女人。
In the West, it seems like ambitious women often compare themselves to other women
在西方，有野心的女性似乎經常把自己跟其他女性做比較，
hoping to be noticed as the most successful woman in the room.
希望被注意到是屋子里最成功的女人。
This leads to the much-spoken-about competitive behavior between professional women.
這導致了常被提到的在職業女性之間的競爭行為。
If there's only room for one woman at the top,
如果只有容得下一位最優異女性的空間，
then you can't make room for others, much less lift them up.
那你不能為其他人挪出空間，更不用說激勵她們。
Arab women, generally speaking, have not fallen for this psychological trap.
阿拉伯女性，一般來說，沒有掉入這個心理陷阱。
