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Time stood still for a long while,
好長一會兒，時間彷佛靜止了，
and all I could think and repeat in the chaos of my brain was:
而在混亂中，我腦中想的與重復(fù)的是：
"You can forget about that partnership, Leila.
你可以忘記那個伙伴關(guān)系，蕾拉。
It's just never going to happen."
這樣下去不會有什么結(jié)果的。
It took me a couple of days to fully absorb this incident and its implications,
這讓我花了幾天去完全消化這件事與它的含義，
but once I did, I reached three conclusions.
但最后，我得到三個結(jié)論。
One, that these were his issues, his complexes.
第一，那是他的問題，他的病態(tài)心理。
There may be many like him in our society, but I would never let their issues become mine.
在我們的社會中存在著很多像他一樣的人，他們的觀點我絕不會茍同。
Two, that I needed another sponsor, and fast.
第二，我需要其他的支持者，而且要快。
I got one, by the way, and boy, was he great.
順帶一提，我找到了另一半，他真的很棒。
And three, that I would get to show John what women with children can do.
而第三，我要展示給約翰，有小孩的女人可以做什么。
I apply this lesson equally well to my personal life.
這個經(jīng)驗在我的個人生活中也是一樣好用。
As I have progressed in my career, I have received many words of encouragement,
當(dāng)我在職業(yè)上有進(jìn)展時，我得到很多言語的鼓勵，
but I have also often been met by women, men and couples
但我也常遇到一些女人、男人與夫妻，
who have clearly had an issue with my husband and I having chosen the path of a dual-career couple.
他們很明確地對我們夫婦選擇雙薪家庭的道路存有質(zhì)疑。
So you get this well-meaning couple
所以你知道這些出于好心的夫婦
who tells you straight out at a family gathering or at a friends gathering,
在家庭聚會或是在朋友聚會直接了當(dāng)?shù)馗嬖V你，
that, come on, you must know you're not a great mom, given how much you're investing in your career, right?
哎呀，你必須知道你不是個好媽媽，投資了多少在你的職業(yè)生涯，對吧?
I would lie if I said these words didn't hurt.
如果我說這些言語不傷人，那我絕對在說謊。
My children are the most precious thing to me,
我的孩子是我最珍視的事情，
and the thought that I could be failing them in any way is intolerable.
而要我辜負(fù)他們的想法無論如何都是無法忍受的。
But just like I did with John, I quickly reminded myself that these were their issues, their complexes.
但就像我對約翰所做的，我很快地提醒我自己這些都是他們的問題，他們的自卑心態(tài)。
So instead of replying, I gave back one of my largest smiles as I saw, in flashing light, the following sign in my mind's eye.
所以我不回答他們，只是回敬一個我最大的微笑，當(dāng)時我看到，在閃爍的光芒下，在我腦海中的跡象。
Be happy, it drives people crazy.
要幸福快樂，讓人們嫉妒瘋狂吧。
