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When someone criticizes you or says something not-so-nice, just forget it.Worse things have been uttered in human history.Even when you know the person meant it, remember that you become stronger by accepting them for who they are and knowing your capabilities.
倘若有人批評你或者說了些不太善意的話，那么隨他去吧。人類歷史上可發(fā)生過比這更嚴(yán)重的事情。即便他們是刻意得對你進行言語攻擊，你的內(nèi)心也變的更強大了，因為你能接受這些人真實 的樣子并且洞悉了自己的能力。
2.善意待人(be kind)
People who are mean and feel the need to put others down are insecure with themselves. But when you are kind to others, kindness returns to you.
有意貶低別人的刻薄小人對自己往往缺乏安全感。如果你用善意待人，他人也會以此回報。能接受這些人真實的樣子并且洞悉了自己的能力。
3.把你的困難視作挑戰(zhàn)(think of your problem as challenges)
When you come up against a difficulty, whether a person or an event, consider what your future self will have learned from it.I believe it was Kanye West, or maybe Nietszche, who said, "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger."
當(dāng)你面臨困境，不管這此困境是源于人或事，想象一下未來的你將會從中受益。我記得坎耶·維斯特還是尼采曾經(jīng)說過:"沒使我滅亡的事物反而讓我變得更強大。"
4.表達謝意(express gratitude)
When you let people know that you appreciate them, they are more willing to help you in the future.Saying thank you is more than good manners—it's karma.
當(dāng)你向幫助你的人表達謝意時，他們會更加樂意再次向你伸出援助之手。說句感謝不僅僅是良好的禮儀，更是佛教所說的因緣(業(yè)力）。
5.大膽做夢(dream big)
The happiest person has reached the highest level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs—self-actualization.If you want to be happy you must work hard to achieve something, and strive to attain that life goal.
最開心的那些人往往達到了馬斯洛的需求層次理論的最高層次——自我實現(xiàn)。如果你想變得開心就得努力工作做成些事情，這樣才能實現(xiàn)人生目標(biāo)。
6.稱贊別人(speak well of others)
The Buddhist notion of "right thought, right action" is an important one.It's in the mind that negativity starts.By clearing your head of negative ideas of others, you will clear your mind of problems, worries and fears, and you won't be tempted to gossip or speak ill and bring that negativity back to you.
佛教有句話很有份量:"正確的思想指引正確的行為。"消極頹唐始于心。在你的心靈殿堂里抹去對他人的負面想法吧，這樣做你也能清除內(nèi)心垃圾:你的問題，煩惱和恐懼，從而不再輕易說長道短，讓負面情緒占據(jù)你的心靈。
7.活在當(dāng)下(be in the now)
Yes, you have to do your laundry and clean the bathroom when you get home, but while you're here now eating this cheeseburger, just enjoy the cheeseburger.Then apply this lesson to all other moments of pleasure and work—you can deal with the little stuff later.
沒錯，當(dāng)你回到家中，你不得不洗衣服，打掃浴室，但如果現(xiàn)在的你正在吃起司漢堡，那就好好享用吧。這樣的心態(tài)同樣適用于娛樂和工作——你可以晚點再處理一些瑣事。
8.不要和他人比較 (do not pare yourself to others)
As soon as you start this, you fall into a trap of of ego, a grasping at the temporal, fleeting aspects of reality.Instead, think about what you have that makes you happy, or at least satisfied.
一旦你開始和他人比較，你就陷于自我的泥潭，越是想抓住暫存的事物，真實越是轉(zhuǎn)瞬消逝。與此相反，你應(yīng)該經(jīng)常想想你所擁有的讓你快樂的事物，或者至少是能讓你滿意的事物。
9.記得你不需要他人的認可(realize you don't need others' approval)
As long as you do what makes you happy, you don't need other people to condone your actions.This will free you to act on what you believe, which will instill confidence into your every act.
只要你做的事能讓你開心，你就不需要別人指點你的行為。這樣的心態(tài)能讓你自由得做自己喜歡的事情，并讓你舉手投足間充滿自信。
10.誠實待人(be honest)
Lies, even little ones, imply that you are willing to be lied to in return.But when you keep your conversation honest, you will maintain a higher level of integrity in your world.
倘若你撒謊，即便是再小的謊言，都暗示著你也愿意別人以謊言回敬你。但若你言語誠實，你就能在你的世界里保有浩然正氣。
11.花時間傾聽(take time to listen)
The happiest person doesn't interrupt because she knows that if she wants to be heard, she has to listen to others.By listening instead of waiting to speak, you can understand what motivates others, which can help you build rapport with them and understand yourself.那些最快樂的人不會去打斷別人說話，因為他知道如果想被別人傾聽，他要首先傾聽別人。通過傾聽，而不是等著自己發(fā)言，你會了解是什么激勵了他人，這樣做有利于你和別人建立融洽的關(guān)系，也能讓你更加了解自己。
12.接受不能改變的事實(accept what can't be changed)
Sure, I wish I was taller, smarter, and better looking.But I'm not.As soon as I realized that I wasn't going to be President of the U.S.A., I figured out what I did want to do with my life: write.
我當(dāng)然希望自己更高，更聰明，更漂亮。但這不是事實。在當(dāng)我意識到我不能成為美國總統(tǒng)時，我琢磨到我這輩子要干什么:寫作。
13.每天讀一節(jié)充滿睿智的書籍中的選段(read daily selections from a book of wisdom)
Magazines and newspapers are all well and good, but the reason people throughout history have dedicated their lives to religion and philosophy is because of the wisdom these sacred texts hold.It doesn't matter if it's a Bible, Torah or Quran verse, reading these books of wisdom will remind you of what came before and what will come after you.
雜志和報紙固然很好，但是人類歷史上有無數(shù)人卻把一生獻給宗教和哲學(xué)，那是因為這些神圣文本中所持有的智慧。無論是圣經(jīng)，摩西五經(jīng)，還是古蘭經(jīng)，讀這些睿智的書籍能讓你了解生前生后事。
14.每年至少花兩周時間在旅行上(travel at least two weeks of the year)
It's even better if it's foreign travel.Alas, getting out of the country can be expensive.When you go somewhere different, to remind yourself of how people live in places other than those that you're used to, you will be happy to return to what you have when it's time.
如果是出國旅游那就更好了。哎，出國旅游的確花費不菲。但如果你去一個不同的地方，見到那里的人的別樣生活，當(dāng)時間到了你就會很樂意得回到你生活的地方。
15.在負面思想侵蝕之前掐斷它(catch yourself before negativity starts)
Yeah, it's easy to read the above points and say, okay, I get it.But the hardest part of being happy is realizing when negativity starts to creep into your mind and from there, getting rid of it.
這句話讀起來很簡單，說:我明白了。但是想要開心，最難的一點就是覺察到消極思想是何時開始爬進你的心門的。當(dāng)你找到了，就趕緊掐斷它。
16.好好穿著(dress well)
You're only as good as you feel, and you can only feel good if you look good.Personal hygiene, grooming, and fashion enter into this.Rarely will you find someone well-dressed crying by themselves.
你只是和你的感覺一樣好，并且只有當(dāng)你看起來不錯你才能感覺不錯。個人衛(wèi)生，梳洗，時尚都能為你加分。你很難看見衣著講究的人獨自哭泣吧。
17.享受悲傷(enjoy sadness)
John Keats said that in the "temple of delight melancholy has her sovran shrine。" In other words, at the heart of every joy is a glimmer of sadness waiting to shine through.The same goes for sadness—within every pain is a reversal of fortune that will lead you to feel happy again.So when those moments come, enjoy them.They won't last long.
約翰濟慈說過:"在快樂居住的殿堂里面，隱匿的憂郁有一至尊的偶像。" 換句話說，每一份快樂的燈火里都有一絲悲傷發(fā)出微光，它等待著被強光照耀穿透。對于悲傷來說也是一樣的——在每一份痛苦里都隱藏著命運的逆轉(zhuǎn)——讓你重拾喜悅。當(dāng)悲傷的那些時刻到來，享受它們。它們不會持續(xù)太久.
18.吃好喝好(eat well)
You are what you eat, so if you're stuffing yourself with cheeseburgers and hot dogs every day, chances are you are overweight and you lack energy and mental clarity.Instead, make sure to eat enough fruit and vegetables, protein and carbohydrates—and indulge in moderation.
人如其食((西方諺語，指飲食可反映一個人性格與生活環(huán)境)。因此如果你每天都用起司漢堡和熱狗填飽肚子，你很有可能體重超標(biāo)，缺乏能量，頭腦不清。相反得，你一定要攝入足夠的蔬果，蛋白質(zhì)和碳水化合物——有節(jié)制得盡情享受你的食物。
19.與你的親友保持聯(lián)系(keep in touch with your friends and family)
Your family—in most cases—loves you unconditionally.It's important to keep in touch with them, whether it's a weekly phone call or an annual visit.Friends too help to inspire and support happy people.Take time out of your week to communicate with them.
你的家人，在大多數(shù)情況下，都是無條件愛你的。和他們保持聯(lián)系是很重要的，無論是一周一次的電話還是每年一次的拜訪。朋友們也能激勵支持那些開心的人們。每周抽些時間和他們交流吧。
20.享受獨處(be alone)
The happiest person is comfortable spending time by himself.That's because he loves himself.A lot.He is just as comfortable spending an entire day alone as he is spending it with someone else.You should be too.
最開心的那些人獨處時常能感到舒適。那是因為他們愛自己。并且非常愛。他們獨處能感受到的愉悅正如和別人待在一起一樣。你也該如此。
