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Be aware of the green-eyed monster
小心嫉妒者
Two of the most destructive emotions are envy and jealousy, both of which stem from the same source:our own insecurity.As we dive into this lesson, let's first make sure we are clear on the definition of both terms.
兩種最為消極的情緒就是嫉妒和妒忌,兩者的根源相同：我們的不安感。開始深入這個課題之前，我們首先來弄清楚這兩個詞的定義。
What is envy?
什么是嫉妒。
According to Wikipedia envy is best defined as an emotion that occurs when a person lacks another’s (perceived) superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.
根據維基百科上的解釋。嫉妒最好的解釋是當一個人缺少別人的某些可觀的優秀品質、成就或者擁有物時，產生的一種想要得到或者希望別人也得不到的情緒。
Envy can also derive from a sense of low self-esteem that results from an upward social comparison threatening a person’s self image: another person has something that the envier considers to be important to have. if the other person is perceived to be similar to the envier, the aroused envy will be particularly intense, because it signals to the envier that it just as well could have been he or she who had the desired object.
嫉妒也可能來源于因為對比上層社會而覺得自身形象受損產生的自卑心理，(嫉妒者)認為上層社會的人擁有一些他們覺得很重要的東西。如果擁有者看上去和那些嫉妒者相似，那么激起嫉妒心的人就會尤其緊張，因為他們覺得自己也(有資格)能擁有這些自己想要的東西。
Bertrand Russell said “envy is one of the most potent causes of unhappiness. it is a universal and most unfortunate aspect of human nature because not only is the envious person rendered unhappy by his envy, but also wishes to inflict misfortune on others.”
勃蘭特·拉塞爾說過：“嫉妒是不開心最主要的原因之一。它是人性中很普遍也是最不幸的一面因為它不僅使得嫉妒者不開心而且它還使嫉妒者希望將不幸加于別人身上。”
What is jealousy?
什么是妒忌
Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, sadness, and disgust. It is not to be confused with envy.
妒忌是當產生消極想法和不安全、害怕、渴望得到自己珍視的親情、友情和愛情時的一種典型的情緒。妒忌通常包含這幾種情緒：生氣、傷心和厭惡。它不同于嫉妒。
