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If we can make this point that I'm making
如果我們能夠做出這些論點(diǎn)，我說這些，
to powerful men and women in our society
是對于全部有權(quán)力的男人和女人在我們的社會中，
at all levels of institutional authority and power,
在各階層的有權(quán)力人物，
it's going to change, it's going to change
這將會改變，這將會改變
the paradigm of people's thinking.
人們的想法。
You know, for example, I work a lot
你知道嗎，比方說，我和很多
in college and university athletics throughout North America.
北美的學(xué)校和大學(xué)的運(yùn)動員做過工作，
We know so much about how to prevent
我們知道很多防止
domestic and sexual violence, right?
家庭和性別暴力，對嗎？
There's no excuse for a college or university
沒有借口可以給學(xué)校和大學(xué)說，
to not have domestic and sexual violence prevention training
不做防止家庭和性別暴力的訓(xùn)練
mandated for all student athletes, coaches, administrators,
給全部運(yùn)動員學(xué)生，教練，工作人員
as part of their educational process.
作為他們一部分的教育系統(tǒng)。
We know enough to know that we can easily do that.
我們已經(jīng)知道很多，我們可以很容易的做。
But you know what's missing? The leadership.
你知道缺少什么嗎？領(lǐng)導(dǎo)能力。
But it's not the leadership of student athletes.
但是這不是學(xué)生運(yùn)動員的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)能力
It's the leadership of the athletic director,
這是運(yùn)動教練的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)能力，
the president of the university, the people in charge
大學(xué)會長的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)能力，
who make decisions about resources
做資源決定的負(fù)責(zé)人，
and who make decisions about priorities in the institutional settings.
和做校園決定的負(fù)責(zé)人。
That's a failure, in most cases, of men's leadership.
這是一個失敗，在很多的例案，在男人的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)能力
Look at Penn State. Penn State is the mother
看看賓州州立大學(xué)。
of all teachable moments for the bystander approach.
賓州州立大學(xué)是很多旁觀者方法可以學(xué)習(xí)的母親。
You had so many situations in that realm
你會發(fā)現(xiàn)很多真實(shí)的情況中，
where men in powerful positions failed to act
很多有權(quán)力的男人無法保護(hù)
to protect children, in this case, boys.
他們的兒子，在這案子中，小男孩。
It's unbelievable, really. But when you get into it,
這是很難被相信的，真的。但是當(dāng)你深入了解時，
you realize there are pressures on men.
你會發(fā)覺有很多壓力施于男人。
There are constraints within peer cultures on men,
有些束縛發(fā)生在于男人的文化中
which is why we need to encourage men
所以我們必須鼓勵男人
to break through those pressures.
去突破這些壓力。
And one of the ways to do that is to say
其中一個方法是說
there's an awful lot of men who care deeply about these issues.
有很多男人真的關(guān)心這些話題。
I know this. I work with men,
我知道這。我和這些男人一起工作。
and I've been working with tens of thousands,
還有我已經(jīng)和一萬個，
hundreds of thousands of men for many, many decades now.
十萬個男人工作了很多很多年代。
It's scary, when you think about it, how many years.
其實(shí)停恐怖的，當(dāng)我想想已經(jīng)多少年了，
But there's so many men who care deeply about these issues,
但是還有很多男人真的關(guān)心這些話題。
but caring deeply is not enough.
但是僅僅關(guān)心是不夠的。
We need more men with the guts,
我們需要有勇氣的男人，
with the courage, with the strength, with the moral integrity
有膽量，有能力，有道德的
to break our complicit silence and challenge each other
去破解這些沉默然后挑戰(zhàn)他們。
and stand with women and not against them.
然后和女人站在同一陣線，不是對抗她們。
By the way, we owe it to women.
但是，我們欠女人的。
There's no question about it.
這是無可否認(rèn)的。
But we also owe it to our sons.
但我們也欠我們的孩子。
We also owe it to young men who are growing up
我們也欠成長中的男孩，
all over the world in situations where they didn't make the choice
在世界各地的男孩，那些沒有得選擇的男孩，
to be a man in a culture that tells them
作為一個男人在一個文化中告訴他們
that manhood is a certain way.
男子氣概是肯定的。
They didn't make the choice.
他們沒得做選擇。
We that have a choice have an opportunity
我們有機(jī)會做這個選擇。
and a responsibility to them as well.
同時我們也對他們有責(zé)任。
I hope that, going forward, men and women,
我希望，往前看，男人和女人，
working together, can begin the change
一起工作，可以開始做出改變，
and the transformation that will happen
然后轉(zhuǎn)變會發(fā)生。
so that future generations won't have the level of tragedy
然后未來的時代不會有同樣的悲劇，
that we deal with on a daily basis.
就好像每天在我們的生活情況下發(fā)生。
I know we can do it. We can do better.
我知道我們可以做到。我們可以做得更好。
Thank you very much.
謝謝。
