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Women are concerned about their partner becoming attracted to other women by sex, intelligence, and other attractions, and dissatisfaction with the current relationship.
女人擔心她們的伴侶被其他女人的性感、理解力和其他特質所吸引，擔心會對現在的關系不滿意。
Men are more concerned about protecting their egos if they are "beaten out" by another man; they worry about their partner having sex with someone else (but they'd probably blame the partner if that did happen).
如果男人因為競爭而筋疲力盡，他們更在意自我保護；他們擔心伴侶與他人發生性關系（但是如果發生了，他們很可能會責備對方）。
It is in this deep worry and spying stage that we go crazy.
這種極度憂慮和暗中監視會讓我們發瘋。
Emotional reactions: If we decide there is a threat to our love, we can have a very wide range of responses: clinging dependency, anger at the competitor or the partner, morbid curiosity, self-criticism, and depression with suicidal thoughts, hurt and resentment of the partner's lack of devotion, social embarrassment, selfish—sometimes realistic—concerns ("I'd better take the money out of the bank"), urge to "get back at" the partner, fear of losing companionship, loneliness, regrets at giving up all the future plans, etc.
情緒反應：如果我們確信愛情有威脅，我們會有一系列的反應：執著的依賴，憎恨競爭者或者伴侶，恐怖的好奇心，自我批評，有輕生的沮喪念頭，厭惡對方沒有投入感情，社交障礙，自私——有時候現實——憂慮（我最好把錢取出銀行），報復對方的強烈愿望，害怕失去伴侶，孤獨，后悔放棄未來的所有的計劃，等等。
Coping response: There are two basic choices—trying to save the threatened relationship or trying to protect your sagging ego.
應對響應：有兩個基本的選擇——要么維護好受到威脅的關系，要么保護好自己的心。
Men are more likely to become competitive or angry, often including getting drunk.
男人更可能會更有競爭意識或者生氣，常會一醉方休。
Women more often become weak and depressed.
女人通常會變得脆弱和失望。
After an affair, men want sexual details and women want to know how serious the relationship is.
在遭遇背叛之后，男人想知道和性有關的細節，女人想知道關系發展到什么地步了。
