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Understanding Jealousy
理解嫉妒
Most of us have experienced Shakespeare's "green-eyed monster"—jealousy. It is a terrible obsession.
大多數(shù)的我們都經(jīng)歷過莎士比亞筆下的“綠眼怪物”——嫉妒。這是擺脫不了的困擾。
Often in a crisis we'd like to kill the person who tries to take our lover away.
通常在一場危機(jī)中，我們想殺死搶走我們愛人的那個(gè)人。
It is said that 20% to 35% of all murders involve a jealous lover.
據(jù)說20%到35%的謀殺和情人的嫉妒有關(guān)。
Just as falling in love seems "natural" and unlearned, so does jealousy.
就像戀愛，嫉妒看上去也是自然的，不學(xué)而知的。
It just comes over us when someone or something (like work, TV, or sports) threatens our love relationship.
當(dāng)有人或者有事情（比如工作，電視，或者運(yùn)動(dòng)）威脅我們戀愛的關(guān)系時(shí)，嫉妒就會(huì)出現(xiàn)。
There are four stages of jealousy:
嫉妒有四個(gè)步驟：
Suspecting the threat: If you are insecure about a love relationship and very dependent on your lover, you are likely to be jealous.
懷疑威脅：如果你對一段戀愛關(guān)系沒有安全感，并且非常依賴你的愛人，那么你很容易會(huì)嫉妒。
You may see "signs" of disaster when none are there. In reality, 45% of the people in the Psychology.
你可能會(huì)覺得感情受到威脅，但是其實(shí)根本沒有第三者。事實(shí)上，45%的人心理存在這個(gè)問題。
Today survey had cheated on a partner while pretending to be faithful.
當(dāng)今的調(diào)查中可能還存在假裝忠誠的伴侶。
If the threat to our relationship—the competitor—is attractive, intelligent, successful, etc., we will be more threatened and more disturbed.
如果我們的關(guān)系中存在威脅——競爭對手是具有吸引力的，聰明的，成功的等等，那么我們將受到更多的威脅和干擾。
Assessing the threat: We may spy on our lover and the competitor; we probably lie awake nights worrying about the situation and reviewing the signs, "Did she come on to him?" "I wonder if he has talked to her?" "Does he love her?" "Wonder if everybody but me knows about it?"...
評估威脅：我們可以暗中監(jiān)視我們的愛人和競爭對手；我們很可能徹夜不眠想象不好的場景和回顧不好的跡象，“她和他在一起了嗎？”“我想知道他是否在跟她說話？”“他愛上她了嗎？”“想知道是不是除了我大家都知道了”……
