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109.It's Called Manipulation
109.制勝法寶
"Marcy. Why do you have such an easy time with men?" Wendy asked.
"瑪西，為什么你和男人們在一起就過得那么開心？"溫迪問。
None of the men I date ever have a long shelf life!"
"我約會的那些男人沒有一個長久的！"
"It's because you have a problem doing the things your boyfriends like!" Marcy replied.
"那是因為你不會做一些男朋友們喜歡的事情！"瑪西回答道。
"I mean, remember one guy you dated? He just wanted to go to a drive-in movie! You wouldn't do it!
"我是說, 記得你約會過的一個小伙子嗎？他就想去看一場‘免下車'電影，而你卻死活不想去！
He had a heart of gold and you let him get away!
他心地那么善良，而你卻讓他跑掉了！
And then there was that guy who had a job getting a chance to be with you, but you didn't want to visit the best parks with him because you didn't like going for walks! No wonder they leave!"
后來又有一個家伙，他好不容易找到和你在一起的機會，而你卻不愿和他一起逛最好的公園，因為你不喜歡走路！怪不得他們走了！"
"Oh, my God! I guess I have a short memory. You're right.
"我的天??！我想我是有點健忘。你說得對。
I do have a way with making them leave me because I have enough of my own hang-ups! I have got to change!" Wendy replied.
我真的有把他們趕跑的本事， 因為我的這些煩惱讓我自己也受夠了！我得改一改啦！"溫迪答道。
"Yes. You have had better men than I have.
"是的。你碰到過的男人比我碰到的強。
But I keep the okay ones because I know they know that I have an impact on their lives. I make them better!"
可我把那些不錯的人留下了, 因為我知道他們明白我對他們的生活產(chǎn)生了影響。我使他們變得更加優(yōu)秀！"
"Wow! I have such a hard time doing that!
"哇！這我可難做到！
I think men should have a strong arm for me, not the other way around!"
我認為男人應該是我的依靠，而不是我是他們的依靠！"
"And they should." Wendy agreed. "But you need to let them be that way!
"他們的確應該是你的依靠,"溫迪附和道。"但你得讓他們有這樣的機會！
Men need to be shown how to be better without them knowing that you are the one showing them!"
男人需要別人指引如何變得更優(yōu)秀，同時又不想知道是你在指引他們！"
"So I should just have done with telling them what to do, but make subtle hints ...?"
"這么說我應該結(jié)束對他們的指手劃腳，而對他們做些巧妙的暗示……？"
"Sure. Find a way for them to have access to what you think without you telling them directly.
"沒錯。想辦法讓他們了解你的想法，但又不直接說出來。
You know, say it in a roundabout way.
你知道，要委婉地告訴他們。
And if they don't get it, well, you know how to tell a man that you have another commitment!
如果他們實在不明白，那你就應該知道如何告訴他們你有另外的事要做！
Then try again on the next one!"
然后再試試下一個人！"
