-- Focus on the positive. Dr. Orbuch suggests making a list of 10 characteristics you actually adore -- or at least tolerate -- in your spouse. 'When you turn your concentration to what is going well, it motivates you to keep going in that direction,' she says.
-- 關注積極的一面。奧巴克博士建議制定一個清單,寫出你喜歡伴侶的10個特點,或者至少是你可以容忍的特點。她說,當你把注意力放在積極的事情上的時候,你就會有動力使事情朝著積極的方向發展。