可可電臺，每期節目一話題，讓英語磨練耳朵的同時學到更多有益的小知識，豐富知識的同時受益于生活。

Eradicating these bad habits

改掉壞習慣

Hanging around negative people.

和消極的人在一起無所事事

Complainers and negative people are bad news becausethey wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions.

抱怨的人和消極的人是很令人討厭的，因為他們沉迷于自己的問題中而不去尋求解決辦法。

They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. Peopleoften feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don't want to be seenas callous or rude, but there's a fine line between lending a sympathetic earand getting sucked into their negative emotional spirals. You can avoid gettingdrawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary.

他們希望人們加入到他們的同情聚會中，這樣他們能感覺好一些。人們往往對聽抱怨者說話感到壓力很大，因為他們不想讓人覺得自己很麻木或是很粗魯，但借出同情之耳和卷入消極情緒漩渦之間是有微妙差別的。只有設定界限以及必要時讓自己遠離，才能避免陷入其中。

Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternooninhaling the second-hand smoke? You'd distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people. A great wayto set limits is to ask them how they intend to fix their problems. Thecomplainer will then either quiet down or redirect the conversation in aproductive direction.

不妨這樣想：如果一個人在抽煙，你會一下午坐在那吸二手煙嗎？你會遠離他，同樣的對消極的人你也應該這樣做。設定界限最好的方法是問他們是否愿意解決自己的問題。抱怨者要么安靜下來，要么抱著解決問題的想法重新開始這段談話。

You should strive to surround yourself with peoplewho inspire you, people who make you want to be better, and you probably do.But what about the people who drag you down？Why do you allowthem to be a part of your life?

你應該努力讓能激勵的人圍在你身邊，那些人讓你愿意變得更好，而你可能真的會變得更好。但拖累你的那些人呢？你為什么讓他們成為你生活的一部分？

Anyone who makes youfeel worthless, anxious, or uninspired is wasting your time and, quitepossibly, making you more like them. Life is too short to associate with peoplelike this. Cut them loose.

任何讓你感到沒有價值的、焦慮的、不受鼓舞的人都是在浪費你的時間，也很有可能讓你變得更像他們。生命太短暫，不要和這樣的人交往，遠離他們吧。

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