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So whether it's dealing with addiction or dealing with any issue in our lives,
不管是要應(yīng)對上癮問題 還是對于生活中別的問題
perfectionism, or whether it's improving something, first step is awareness.
完美主義 還是要改善什么 第一步就是要有意識
Second step is-there is 5 more minutes, by the way,
第二步是 還有五分鐘就完
those of you who are looking at this clock-it's 5 minutes fast.
那些看著鐘的同學 那鐘快了五分鐘
Or 4 more minutes. 4 more minutes. Focus on a reward effort.
或是四分鐘 還有四分鐘就完 專注于對努力的嘉獎
What Carol Dweck showed was when we focus on efforts, people's effort,
卡羅爾·徳韋克向我們展示的就是當我們專注于努力的時候
we are able to change schema that has been engrained there, and that has been there very often for years.
我們就能夠改變那種根深蒂固的基模 即便這種基模已經(jīng)存在了多年
So with ourselves, or with other people, it's about focusing on the journey,
所以對我們自己 或者對別人 我們應(yīng)專注于旅途
focusing on and rewarding ourselves at times, even for failure, for trying.
專注 并不時地嘉獎自己 甚至是嘉獎自己的失敗 自己的嘗試
And within a few hours, what Carol Dweck has seen, teaching people that their mind is malleable,
在幾個小時內(nèi) 如卡羅爾·徳韋克所見 告訴人們他們的心是可以拓展的
teaching them actually about neuro plasticity that is not a fix, we can bring about change. Active acceptance.
告訴他們神經(jīng)可塑性 并非已經(jīng)定型 我們?nèi)钥梢宰鞒龈淖?積極的接受
Karen Horney, whom I consider one of the mothers of positive psychology has done a lot of work on neurosis.
卡倫·霍妮 我認為她是幸福學創(chuàng)始人之一 她在神經(jīng)癥領(lǐng)域做了很多工作
One of the thing that she found was that neurosis that we have never really goes away.
她研究所得的其中一點是神經(jīng)癥 它從來不會消失
It's always part of us. It becomes more manageable, but it's always there.
它總是我們的一部分 它會變得更加可控制 但是總是存在
And perfectionism at the extreme is a form of neurosis. So the thing is to accept that it will always be…
而極度的完美主義也是一種神經(jīng)癥 所以關(guān)鍵就是接受它
I always have the tendency for perfectionism and it's OK.
我總會有完美主義傾向 但是這沒關(guān)系
However, whereas before, I was here on the extreme of perfectionism; now I'm much closer to the excellence extreme.
但是 在以前 我有著極度的完美主義 現(xiàn)在我更加接近追求卓越的極致
And it's a life long…It's an on-going process. It's an on-going process.
這是持續(xù)一生的 是不斷進行的一個過程 這是不斷進行的一個過程
