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But they enjoyed the process and they worked harder. Look at this slight manipulation.
但是他們享受這個過程 并且更加努力 看看這微小的操縱帶來的結(jié)果
Simply one sentence-"oh you are so smart!" Oh you are working so hard!
簡簡單單的一個句子“你真聰明” 你真努力
One sentence lead to this significant difference.
一句話帶來了這么明顯的不同
In her words-"Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control.
用她的話來說 “重視努力讓孩子擁有一個他自己能掌控的變量
They come to see themselves as in control of their success.
這能讓他們認(rèn)為自己能掌控自己的成功
Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child's control,
強調(diào)自然的天賦讓孩子們無法掌控成功
and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure."
這不會給孩子提供面對失敗的方法。”
Essentially what happens when you focus only on the intelligence,
事實上當(dāng)你僅僅注重于天賦的時候
on how smart you are, you are creating the perfectionist schema,
你就是在制造完美主義的基模
as opposed to a schema that focuses on the journey, effort, hard work.
而不是專注于旅途當(dāng)中努力的基模
She continues-"When you praise kids' in telligence and then they fail,
她繼續(xù)說道“如果你稱贊孩子的智力 當(dāng)他們失敗時
they think they're not smart anymore, and they lose interest in their work.
他們會認(rèn)為自己不再聰明 然后失去對于眼前工作的興趣
In contrast, kids praised for effort show no impairment and often are energized in the face of difficulty."
相反 那些被稱贊努力的孩子 在困難面前不會氣餒 甚至更有動力。”
What a difference just based on these two approaches.
這兩種方式造成了多么明顯的不同
Person who is praised for their intelligence creates this schema-either I'm intelligent or I'm not.
被稱贊智力的人會產(chǎn)生這樣的基模：要么我很聰明 要么我就不聰明
And I'm afraid of not being intelligent, so I'll choose the easier task.
我很畏懼不聰明 所以我就選擇容易一點的任務(wù)吧
And when I can't do something, it's an attack, it's an insult on my schema, right?
當(dāng)我無法做到的時候 這就是攻擊 是對于我的基模的侮辱 沒錯吧？
It's a deviation from this straight narrow.
這是對于直線的偏離
In contrast, if effort is most important, OK, let me see what's around the corner here.
相對的 如果努力才是最重要的 那么好的 就讓我試試看吧
