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You read about"flow"-Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi who talks about flow is being peak experience we enjoy the most
大家都了解過“流動”了 米哈利·奇克森特米海伊談論過流動是我們最良好的感受
and peak performance-we perform at our best, defying the"no pain, no gain" formula.
最出色的表現 也就是“沒有付出就沒有收獲”
And when do we experience flow? Not when we experience the high levels of anxiety
我們什么時候感受到流動？我們焦慮的時候感受不到
as the perfectionist often does, not when we are bored,
就如完美主義者那樣 我們無聊時感受不到
but when it's the optimum levels of arousal, when we are excited.
只有我們樂觀愉快 興奮的時候感受得到
The person committed to excellence is much more likely to experience the flow
追求卓越的人更容易感覺到流動
than the person who is constantly afraid of failure,
而那些一直畏懼失敗的人、
constantly obsessed with failure, constantly thinking about what if I fail.
一直為失敗所困擾的人 一直在設想如果我失敗了怎么辦的人
Let me talk a little bit about the sources of the perfectionism.
我來談談完美主義的根源吧
Because if we understand that, as I mentioned last time,
因為一旦我們明白 就如我上次說的
if we understand where it comes from, we are much more likely to be able to get over it.
一旦我們明白它是怎么來的 我們就更能克服它
So some of these sources of perfectionism. The first one, the most important one is conditioning.
完美主義的根源 第一個 最重要的因素就是社會影響
I mean we are not born perfectionist. Children as you saw in the video-they are,
我們都不是天生的完美主義者 你們在錄影帶中看到的孩子
as you know, born actually enjoying the learning process much more than we do.
他們天生比我們更能享受學習的過程
When we are afraid of failing, they fall and they get up again.
我們畏懼失敗 他們卻不斷跌掉了又爬起
So it's through conditioning that we learn to be afraid of failure, specifically,
所以是社會的影響導致了我們對于失敗的畏懼 確切地說
the schema that we internalize that's being reinforced constantly from almost the time
是這樣一種在我們心中烙下的并且幾乎從出生開始就不斷被加深的基模
when we were born-that what matters is the destination.
那就是：成果才是真正重要的
When we get to a certain destination such as learning how to walk-well done!
當我們得到了某個成果的時候 比如學會走路 做得好
