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You know when I initially started to teach, I really wanted the validation from the students. So how can I have my students perceive me as a good teacher?
我剛開始教書時我非常希望得到學(xué)生的認(rèn)可。我如何能使學(xué)生覺得我是個好老師呢
I want them to like me. And you know, that's important for everyone. We all like to be liked.
我希望他們喜歡我。這對每個人來說都很重要。我們都希望被喜歡
However, when I switched my focus, and yeah, I still want to be liked, but my main focus is I want my students to know me.
但當(dāng)我轉(zhuǎn)換注意力，對我仍然希望被喜歡，但我主要的注意力在于我希望學(xué)生了解我
I want them to know the topic that I'm most passionate about in the world.
我希望他們了解我對這世界最有興趣和激情的事物
That really changed a lot. It's no longer to be validated, i. e. to appear perfect,
這確實(shí)改變了我很多，不再是得到認(rèn)可，也就是說，變得完美
but it was to be known as a human being, of course, permission to be human.
而是作為一個人被了解，當(dāng)然了，準(zhǔn)許自己為人
And that actually improved my teaching a great deal and I enjoyed it so much more. Because there is so much less pressure on us
而這實(shí)際上大大地促進(jìn)了我的教學(xué)，我也更喜歡教課了。因為我們之間的關(guān)系
in a relationship, any relationship, when we go in with the intention of being known of expressing rather than impressing.
不再有那么大的壓力，不管是什么關(guān)系，只要我們抱著被了解的愿望重在表達(dá)而非使人記住
We can feel so much lighter. And the wonderful thing is, that it also makes the relationship so much healthier.
我們會如釋重負(fù)，而更好的是，這使得一段關(guān)系更健康
But again, much more on it, because it is so important. So important topic.
我還會講得更多，因為這非常重要。是非常重要的話題
We talked about this a lot. How do we perceive failure, as a stumbling block? A catastrophe? Or as an opportunity? As a growth experience?
我們經(jīng)常講這個。我們?nèi)绾卫斫馐。O腳石？災(zāi)難？還是作為一次機(jī)會，或成長的經(jīng)歷？
And that can make all the difference. We'll talk about it after spring break when we discuss perfectionism and the fear of failure.
這都會有很大的區(qū)別。春假之后我們會再學(xué)習(xí)，我們會討論完美主義以及對失敗的恐懼
And finally, the study that you read by Ali Crum and Ellen Langer.
最后講一下，你們讀到的阿里·克拉姆和艾倫·蘭格做的研究
So just give you a little bit background about the study and I will briefly mention it, hopefully you've read it already.
先給你們講點(diǎn)這個研究的背景，我會簡要地提一提，希望你們都已經(jīng)讀過了
