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And then the sledge hammer example is like the Eureka experience, the great insight that doesn't come in a vacuum.
另外大錘的例子和探索經驗是一回事，真知灼見不是憑空產生的，而是經過
It comes after a lot of hard work after a lot of preparation.
長時間準備后千錘百煉而得來的
You know the 99% of perspiration that leads to that inspiration.
大家都知道所謂的靈感來自于99%的汗水
So no quick-fix. And the believe in quick-fix, the expectation of the quick-fix
所以說，沒有靈丹妙藥，而且正是那種對靈丹妙藥的篤信和渴求
that is one of the reasons why levels of the depression are so high today, because people are frustrated. They are disappointed.
導致了今天抑郁癥如此高發頻發，因為大家都很郁悶，很失望
They think there's something wrong with them when they don't succeed in the quick-fix. But they have just, I just write in the book that it's possible.
發現靈丹妙藥不管用的時候就覺得是自己出了問題。我在書里也寫了，很可能他們認為
If I do these five things, I'd be happy for the rest of my life. And I do these five things. And I'm not happier.
"如果做完這五件事，我的人生就會美滿了"。結果五件事做完，我卻沒有變得更快樂
And I begin to question myself.
于是我就開始懷疑自己
No quick-fix. It takes time. No five easy steps to happiness.
沒有靈丹妙藥，任何事都需要時間。沒有所謂什么"幸福生活五步走"
Before we go to the change process, there are a few things we need to understand. The first thing to understand is this.
在我們講變化過程之前，我們先要理清一些概念。首先我們要問的是
Do I, do you really want to change?
我，或者你，真的想要改變嗎
Do I really want to improve certain things in my personality... things that... or character, or behavior, things that I don't like.
我是不是真的想要改善我的個性，或者我不喜歡的性格或行為
And it's not a trivial question. It is not a rhetorical question
這不是一個無關緊要的問題。也不是象征性地問自己一下
because very often on the conscious level we maybe saying yes, but on the subconscious level something is stopping us.
因為表面上我們可能會說當然了，但是潛意識里卻有東西在阻撓我們
Let me show you an example.
我給大家舉個例子吧
So this is the study done by Langer and, and Thompson back in the 80s.
早在80年代的時候蘭格和湯普森曾做過一個實驗
