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However, the difference between a merit finder and, sorry, a benefit finder and a fault finder is that,
但是積極者，對(duì)不起，積極者和消極者的區(qū)別在于
the benefit finder understands that while things don't necessarily happen for the best, it is possible to make the best of things that happen.
積極者明白這世界是不會(huì)事事如愿的，但我們可以扭轉(zhuǎn)壞事
Things will be OK. Things will turn out fine. It may take a while.
事情會(huì)好轉(zhuǎn)的，一切會(huì)變順利的，可能需要點(diǎn)時(shí)間
Until I see the benefit of it, it may take a while and I will get over the humiliation or the pain or the disappointment. But that, too, shall pass.
可能要過(guò)一段時(shí)間才能看到曙光，可能要過(guò)一段時(shí)間才能忘了羞辱痛苦失望，但一切不好的事都會(huì)過(guò)去
In other words, The benefit finder understands that these feelings are temporary,
也就是說(shuō)，積極者明白這些感覺(jué)是暫時(shí)的
gives him or herself the permission to be human and then understands things will turn out fine at the end. I know that. Been there. Done that.
他會(huì)允許自己有人之常情，他會(huì)明白事情最后會(huì)好轉(zhuǎn)的。我明白這點(diǎn)，發(fā)生的都發(fā)生了
Part of life. Permission to be human, which includes permission to experience these emotions and also the permission to fail.
這就是人生，允許自己有人之常情，包括允許自己感受這些負(fù)面情緒，允許自己失敗
We'll talk a lot about this permission to fail when we talk about perfectionism. Because perfectionism is real intense for your failure or we feel it's all or nothing.
我們稍后會(huì)深入講允許自己失敗，等我們講到完美主義時(shí)，因?yàn)橥昝乐髁x對(duì)失敗有強(qiáng)烈的情緒，如果做不到最好的，那就是最差的
Either we have a complete flawless record, or it's useless.
如果你不是完美無(wú)瑕，那你就是一無(wú)是處
It's either phenomenal, or catastrophe. All or nothing.
要么就是非凡，要么就是平庸，沒(méi)有中間地帶
The benefit finder understands that nature, the human nature dictates that we have painful emotions and human nature, or being human dictates we also fail.
積極者明白人的本性決定了我們會(huì)有痛苦的情緒，人的本性或者說(shuō)是人就會(huì)有失敗的時(shí)候
And that, too, shall pass.
但失敗會(huì)過(guò)去的
