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So how are we supposed to live with this?
那我們?cè)趺床拍苊鎸?duì)悔恨？
I want to suggest that there's three things that help us to make our peace with regret.
我想提三點(diǎn)建議來(lái)讓我們平和地面對(duì)后悔。
And the first of these is to take some comfort in its universality.
第一就是意識(shí)到它的普遍性。
If you Google regret and tattoo, you will get 11.5 million hits.
如果你在谷歌上搜索后悔和紋身，能有1150萬(wàn)條結(jié)果。
The FDA estimates that of all the Americans who have tattoos, 17 percent of us regret getting them.
品和藥物管理局估計(jì)全美紋過(guò)身的人里大概有百分之十七的人都會(huì)后悔。
That is Johnny Depp and me and our seven million friends.
包括強(qiáng)尼1德普、我還有七百萬(wàn)陌生朋友。
And that's just regret about tattoos. We are all in this together.
而這只不過(guò)是后悔紋了身而已。我們都差不多。
The second way that we can help make our peace with regret is to laugh at ourselves.
第二點(diǎn)去平和地處理后悔就是學(xué)會(huì)自嘲 。
Now in my case, this really wasn't a problem, because it's actually very easy to laugh at yourself when you're 29 years old and you want your mommy because you don't like your new tattoo.
這對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)一點(diǎn)都不難，因?yàn)槟阋?9歲了還因?yàn)橐粋€(gè)不喜歡的新紋身而哭著找媽媽的話，完全可以自嘲一下。
But it might seem like a kind of cruel or glib suggestion when it comes to these more profound regrets.
雖然有人會(huì)覺(jué)得這個(gè)建議對(duì)于真正沉重的后悔來(lái)說(shuō)有點(diǎn)殘酷且華而不實(shí)。
I don't think that's the case though.
我不這么認(rèn)為。
All of us who've experienced regret that contains real pain and real grief understand that humor and even black humor plays a crucial role in helping us survive.
幾乎我們所有人都經(jīng)歷過(guò)十分痛苦和懊悔的情況，幽默，甚至黑色幽默能幫助我們度過(guò)難關(guān)。
It connects the poles of our lives back together, the positive and the negative, and it sends a little current of life back into us.
因?yàn)樗苓B接我們生活的兩個(gè)極端，正極和負(fù)極，給我們的生活注入一點(diǎn)電流。
