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When we hear that a couple live 11 time zones apart and can afford to come together only once in a long while, it’s natural to offer sympathy for the pain.
當(dāng)聽說一對(duì)情侶身處兩地，彼此間隔11個(gè)時(shí)區(qū)，很久才能相聚時(shí)，我們很自然地會(huì)為他們的相思之苦表示同情。
We should more fairly envy them for their luck.
而事實(shí)上，我們應(yīng)該羨慕他們的好運(yùn)氣。
Whatever our longings may indicate, it is simply a lot easier to love when someone isn’t there.
無論我們感情是否承認(rèn)，但愛一個(gè)不在身邊的人的確更加容易。
Far from an unfortunate necessity, living apart should be recognised for what it truly is: an advantage.
異地而居絕非憾事，相反，人們應(yīng)該認(rèn)識(shí)到距離對(duì)情侶是有益處的。
So much goes right when we live a long way away:
當(dāng)伴侶身處異地時(shí)，許多方面都會(huì)更加順利。
Online or over the phone, we never assume that the other person should be able to read our minds without us ever having explained what is actually in them.
1、不管是在線聊天還是煲電話粥，我們都不會(huì)要求對(duì)方在自己未完全表達(dá)清楚的情況下，讀懂我們的心思。
We accept that we will have to describe our days, as well as our desires, in words and pictures.
我們都會(huì)用文字和圖片描述彼此的想法和生活。
We can’t help but do that thing that holds couples together: communicate.
我們能做的只有維系情感的必要措施——交流。
We accept that the other can live without us – and therefore make the effort to be the sort of people someone would freely choose to be with.
2、我們得承認(rèn)：對(duì)方?jīng)]有我們也能活下去。因此，我們才不斷努力，讓自己成為他人愿意與之相處的人。
We work at it.
我們?cè)谔嵘晕摇?/div>
We can benefit from what jealousy otherwise prevents us from admitting: how much it helps us to feel like desirable, potent people
3、以往怕戀人吃醋而不敢承認(rèn)的事，其實(shí)對(duì)我們有益——認(rèn)為自己是一個(gè)優(yōu)秀的、有其他人喜愛的人，
to be able to go out and flirt with someone else for a while without too many questions being asked.
并可以自由出去玩，跟別人調(diào)情，而不會(huì)有人質(zhì)問你。
In other words, how profoundly loyal a whiff of surface disloyalty helps us to be.
也就是說，偶爾放松一下，反而能讓我們更忠誠。
