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Apart, we appreciate.
4、分開后會更重視對方。
It’s a strange quirk of our minds, but we only ever notice what’s missing: the money we don’t have; the weather we long for; the car we don’t yet own.
我們的大腦非常奇怪，它只會注意到自己身邊沒有的東西：賬上沒有的萬貫家財、一心期盼的好天氣、沒到手的汽車。
Yet once anything is securely in our possession, it disappears.
而一旦我們擁有了這些東西，它們的存在感就會蕩然無存。
We only see – in the sense of notice – what isn’t there.
我們只關注沒得到的東西。
The best way to lose ownership of something is to own it – and the surest way to forget your partner exists may be to ensure they’re beside you every night.
想失去一件東西的最佳方法，就是擁有它。如果你的伴侶每天都安臥在你枕邊，你自然會把ta當做空氣。
When we were apart, we can sample the gentle suffering of loneliness over the intense rage of suffocation.
5、異地戀時，我們體驗的只是輕微的孤獨感，而不是同居時強烈的窒息感。
We never have to find out how much it can tarnish love to be with someone who has a different idea of a cutlery drawer or the correct way to suspend a towel.
我們無需發現生活瑣事對愛情的影響，例如兩人因選什么樣的餐具抽屜、如何掛毛巾而意見不合。
Too often, when we’re cohabiting, we locate the difficulty of our relationships in a very erroneous place:
同居后，人們總是把情感不順歸咎于錯誤的地方。
