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They are good. We are asking "How can we improve? What can we do better?" But if we don't also ask the positive question.
它們都是好的動機 我們問的是 "我們如何改善?怎樣才能做得更好?" 但如果我們不問積極的問題
That part of reality will not exist as far as we are concerned. Just like for the psychologists for decade, the answer to their questions, the solution.
在我們看來那部分現實并不存在 就像數十年來對那些心理學家一樣 他們問題的答案 問題的解決方案
To the problem that they wanted to solve did not exist, even though it is right there, in front of their very eyes within the successful kids.
并不存在 即使它就在那里 在他們的眼前 在那些成功孩子的身上
Within their resilience. Questions create reality. The questions we ask very often determine.
在他們的心理彈性里 問題締造現實 我們所問的問題通常決定了
The quest that we will pursue, the path that we will take, the life that we will lead.
我們追求的東西 我們會走的道路 我們會過的生活
Whether it's individually, whether it's interpersonally, whether it's organizationally.
不管是從個人方面來說 從人際關系方面來說 從組織方面來說都是這樣
What is the question? Many of you I know are going into consulting. What's the question that most consultants ask.
什么問題. 我知道你們很多會要當心理輔導師 心理輔導師最經常問的問題是什么?
Either explicit question or implicit question, the first time when they meet a client? "What's wrong? What can we improve?
不管他們是否說出來 他們首次見到客戶問的問題是什么? "有什么問題?有什么需要改善的?"
What are the weaknesses that we need to strengthen them?" Again, important questions to ask. But if you only ask these questions.
"有什么缺點需要改正?" 再說一次 它們是很重要的問題 但如果你只問這些問題
Then you are ignoring the strengths, the virtues of the organization.
那么你就忽視了這個機構的 優勢以及美德
And what you are doing, you are enervating, you are weakening the organization over time.
你所做的只是在讓他們失去活力
It is as important, if not more important, to also appreciate what is working.
你在讓公司慢慢地變弱 欣賞起作用的東西 也同樣重要 如果不是更重要的話
Organizationally, interpersonally, as well as individually. It is important to appreciate what is good. I mean, look at the word, "appreciate"
不管是在機構里 人際關系里或個人方面 欣賞好的事物非常重要 看看"Appreciate"這個詞
