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What questions do they begin to ask after that period of time? "What's wrong? What's not working? How can we improve the relationship?"
那段時期后他們會開始問什么問題? "怎么回事?有什么問題?" "我們怎樣去改善關系?'
Now that's a very important question to ask. Very important. But if that's the only question or.
這是一個非常重要的問題 非常重要 但如果這是我們所問的
The only questions that we ask, then that is the only thing we will see. The only things that we will see are our deficiencies.
唯一一些問題 那么我們看到的也只有這件事 我們能看到的只是我們的不足
The things that are not working, the things that need to be improved, the weaknesses of my partner of the relationship.
出了差錯的事情 需要去改善的事情 我伴侶的缺點
If the only questions that I ask are "what is not working", "what's wrong", "what do I need to improve" and again.
我們關系的缺點 如果我只是問"什么出了差錯" "怎么回事 我要改善什么" 重申一次
These are not questions we need to do away with, they are important. However if they are the only questions, and usually they are the only questions.
我們不需要去掉這些問題 它們很重要 但如果它們是唯一的問題 而通常它們確實是
That are asked or primarily asked, then as far as the couple is concerned, not objectively, but as far as the couple is concerned.
被提出或主要提出的問題 那么在這對夫婦看來 不是客觀上 在這對夫婦看來
Good things do not exist in the relationship. Just like as far as you are concerned, there were no children on the bus.
他們的關系里沒有好的事物 就像在你們看來 巴士上沒有小孩
Even though they were right there in front of you, staring at you. But they do not exist.
雖然他們就在你們面前 盯著你 但是他們不存在
Or think about it at an individual level. This is very important. What is the question that we.
或者從個人的角度思考它 這非常重要 我們問得最多的問題.
Most Americans, most Australians, most Chinese, most Israelis, most Europeans, Africans what is the question that is mostly asked about the self?
大多數美國人 澳大利亞人 中國人 以色列人 歐洲人 非洲人 大多數人最經常問自己的是什么問題?
