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3.Ask Questions
3.問問題
Too many times I entered an argument knowing that I’m right and they’re wrong. Because why would I argue if I didn’t feel it worth fighting for? But then I realized, why would they think any different? Sometimes it is even better to ask questions rather than ignore the problem because you may begin to judge them without fully understanding their view. Simply learning why the person thinks a certain way can diminish the need for an argument all together. As my dad has taught me, there is always two sides to every story.
在過去我參與的許多爭論中，我知道我是對的而他們是錯的。因為如果我覺得不值得的話我怎么會和他們?nèi)幷撃兀康牵髞砦乙庾R到，為什么他們會有不同的想法呢？有時問問題都比忽視問題要好，因為你有可能會在完全理解對方觀點前就開始進行判斷。只要知道為什么對方會這樣想就能避免一場爭論。我爸爸常教導(dǎo)我說：凡事皆有兩面性。
4.Understand That No One Is You
4.明白自己是獨一無二的
No one is ever going to think the same as you. We are all very different—different personalities, different past experiences, and different present situations. Learning the way a person thinks is sometimes the only way of truly understanding their position.
沒有人的想法會和你的一模一樣。我們都很不一樣——不一樣的人品性格，過去經(jīng)歷和目前處境。學(xué)會用別人思考的方式看問題有時是真正理解對方處境的唯一方式。
Mend Old Wounds
修復(fù)舊傷
Have you been in an argument that had no closure to it—that was just left as an open wound? It’s so important to do everything you can to find that closure. Hard feelings and grudges are often the result of unsettled conflict. Whenever my brother and I would get into an argument my parents would put us in a room and we couldn’t come out until we had worked it out. We hated it, but it worked. Finish what you started. It can be a hard thing to do, to go back to that, but re-approaching the situation with the right attitude will help it go smoother.
你有和別人進行過沒有結(jié)果只留下未彌合分歧的爭論嗎？盡力得出一個結(jié)論很重要，未解決的沖突往往是造成反感和怨恨的原因。每次我和我兄弟爭論，我的父母都會把我們關(guān)進一間房子里，沒有爭出結(jié)果就不能出來。我們很討厭這樣，但真的有用。善始善終可能很難，但是態(tài)度端正地重新解決問題會使事情更順利。
My Challenge
我給你的挑戰(zhàn)
I want to encourage you to think about these four points when you find yourself on the verge of a disagreement.
當你感覺自己想要發(fā)表不同意見的時候，我想要你思考以上四點。
What have you learned from working through difficult situations and what have you found works best in avoiding arguments? Please share your thoughts below this post.
你在處理困境的過程中學(xué)到了什么？你覺得什么是避免爭論的最好方法呢？請在文章下方分享你的觀點。
Simply thinking before you argue can result in less stress and more understanding, while carelessly jumping into an argument can result in regretful actions and damaged relationships.
爭論前簡單思考一下可以減少壓力，增進理解，而無所顧忌地與人爭論會讓你后悔莫及，破壞關(guān)系。
