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7. Serve one another. Be intentional. We are both very thoughtful about the little things we do to serve each other. This is about putting the other person’s needs before your own. The more your serve and meet the needs of your spouse, the more your spouse will serve and meet your needs.
服務對方。刻意用心。我們都對我們做的小事情非常周到的服務。這是關于把別人的需要放在自己的前面。越多你的服務和滿足你的伴侶的需求,你的配偶會服務來滿足您的需求。
8. Communicate. Effective communication is critical for any marriage to last. This is especially important during difficult periods. Learn your spouse’s communication style and the way he or she needs to hear what you have to say.Then communicate with them in a way that is consistant with how you've learned they best received your message.
溝通。有效的溝通是至關重要的任何婚姻持久。在困難時期尤為重要。學習你的配偶的溝通風格和他或她需要聽到你說什么。然后以你了解到的他們最容易接受的方式和他們溝通。
9. Freedom in intimacy. You know what we mean. Make it a priority.
親密的時候給對方空間。你知道我們的意思。使它優先考慮。
10. Take care of yourself. This includes everything from your physical appearance to the clothes you wear. Do your part to be an attractive mate.
照顧好自己。這包括一切從你穿的衣服你的外表，做好吸引你伴侶的部分。
11. Don’t use absolutes. This means not saying things like, “You always…” and “You Never…”.
不要使用絕對。這意味著不要說這些之類的東西,“你總是…”,“你從不…”
Earlier in our marriage,I mean this is something we did talk about. I mean there were times that I would say to her and she would say to me."You always…" or "You Never…", and it immediately put the other person in a defensive positon. So we've made a commitment to not use those words again.
我們剛結婚的時候，我們的確討論過這件事。我們有時候就是會指責彼此“你總是……”或“你從來不……”，這立馬讓對方產生了抵觸心理。所以我們都承諾以后不再用這些詞。
