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On the other hand, when you brand yourself as someone who refrains from speaking disapprovingly of others, not only will people’s respect for you grow, but you will also be happier. When you hold back saying something negative about someone else—especially when given the opportunity—you exemplify self-control and concern for others.
另一方面,當你銘記某人拒絕說其他人的壞話,不僅人們的尊重有利于你成長,但你也會更快樂。當你對其他人說一些負面，特別是當給機會的時候，例證你的自控和關心他人。
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” Dale Carnegie
任何傻瓜都能批評、譴責和抱怨,但是更需要去理解和寬容?！按鳡枴た突f。
Do not, however, confuse speaking of someone in a derogatory way with participating in a formal critique, such as job performance reviews or when you are asked to point out deficiencies for the purpose of helping someone improve in certain areas. In these instances, use tact and diplomacy to focus on performance issues and always avoid personal attacks.
然而,參與正式的批判的時候，不要混淆貶損的方式說話的人,如工作表現(xiàn)評審或當你被要求指出缺陷為目的的幫助別人在某些領域改善。在這些情況下,使用機智和外交關注的性能問題,總是避免人身攻擊。
Tips for Avoiding Negative Conversations
避免消極談話的技巧
Refuse to engage in negative conversations about others.
拒絕參與對別人消極的對話。
Refuse to be part of groups who speak poorly of others. Remember that if you are surrounded by people who thrive on cutting others down, it may be time for you to reconsider with whom you spend your time.
拒絕成為說別人的不好組織的一部分,。記住,如果你被人貶低別人,也許是時候重新考慮與你花你的時間。
Avoid making negative or unflattering comments about other people by remembering that your comments influence people’s views of you.
避免消極的或不討人喜歡的評論別人記住你的評論影響他人對你的看法。
Sometimes figuratively (and sometimes literally) I bite my tongue when I am on the verge of saying something negative. I do so knowing that quelling the urge to speak my mind on impulse helps me show consideration for others, uphold my values, and maintain my reputation.
有時候打個比方(有時字面上)當我想要說一些消極的時候，我咬我的舌頭不說話。我知道平息沖動說出我的想法的欲望幫我顯示為他人著想,堅持自己的價值觀,保持我的聲譽。
You can build a reputation that commands respect by refusing to speak negatively of others in all circumstances—regardless of who is or isn’t present.
你可以通過拒絕在任何時候說其他人壞話建立聲譽，不管他是不是在場。
