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Chapter 7
第七章
He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want to Marry You
如果他不想跟你結婚，那他其實沒有那么喜歡你
Love Cures Commitment-Phobia
愛可以治愈承諾恐懼癥
Just remember this. Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn't want to get married or doesn't believe in marriage, or has "issues" with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married.
記住。你約會過的任何說不想結婚、不相信婚姻或者是有婚姻問題的男人，總有一天一定會結婚。
It just will never be with you. Because he's not really saying he doesn't want to get married. He's saying he doesn't want to get married to you.
只不過永遠不是跟你。因為他并非是說不想結婚，而是不想跟你結婚。
There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married.
想結婚并沒有什么錯。
You shouldn't feel ashamed, needy, or "unliberated" for wanting that.
你不應該為此而感到羞恥，急色或者約束。
So make sure from the start that you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and if not, move on as quickly as you can.
所以你開始就要確定選的是一個跟你未來打算一致的男人，否則就趕緊分手找過。
Big plans require big action.
大計劃需要大動作。
The "Things Are Really Tight Right Now" Excuse
“當前形勢真的很緊張”的借口
Dear Greg, I have a boyfriend who I've been living with for three years.
親愛的格雷格，我有一個同居3年的男友。
I'm about to turn thirty-nine, and I have started bringing up the idea of long-term plans, like, say, marriage.
我快39歲了，我已經開始提出長久的計劃，比如說結婚。
He always seems open to it, but then talks about how bad his finances are.
他總是看起來對此開誠布公，但是接著又開始說他的未婚妻有多糟糕。
He's an investment banker who works for himself, and he lost a lot of money in the past two years, a lot of clients, as well, and his business really has gone down the tubes.
他是一個自主投資銀行家，在過去的兩年里，他虧損了很多錢，流失了很多客戶，他的生意一落千丈。
He says he's under a lot of pressure.
他說他壓力很大。
Am I being unreasonable to want to know where this is all going? Please let me know.
我想知道事情會如何發展是不近人情么？請告訴我。
Signed Barbara
芭芭拉
