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The "Is This Really an Excuse?" Dilemma
“這真是借口嗎”的窘境
Dear Greg, I'm thirty-three and have been living with a guy for two years.
親愛的格雷格，我33歲，和男友同居2年了。
We are in love, he's great to me, and we get along perfectly.
我們很相愛，他對我很好，我們相處的很圓滿。
He has no problems committing to me—he just doesn't want to get married.
他對我開誠布公——他只是不想結婚。
He married young and got divorced young.
他年輕時結過婚，然后沒多久離婚了。
He says he doesn't want to ruin a good thing.
他說他不想毀掉一件美好的事。
It seems insane of me to break up with him because he doesn't want to get married.
如果我因為他不想結婚而跟他分手，那我一定是瘋了。
We are sharing a life together and are very happy.
我們共享生活，非常開心。
He's even open to having kids. He just doesn't want to get married.
他甚至答應要小孩，他只是不想結婚而已。
In this case, I don't think he's just not that into me. I think he's just not that into marriage.
此種情況，我不認為他不是沒那么喜歡我，我覺得他只是不喜歡婚姻。
Signed Lindsey
琳賽
Dear Common Law Lady, Okay, this may be controversial, but I'm going to say it.
親愛的普通法女士，好吧，也許這有爭議，但是我還是要這么說。
No matter how traumatic a divorce was (and I know they can be traumatic in epic proportions) , the person you plan on spending your life and having children with should love you enough to get over it if getting married is important to you.
不管離婚的創傷有多大（我知道它可以是史上罕見的創傷），如果結婚對你來說很重要的話，這個你打算共度余生，撫育兒女的人應該足夠愛你以克服它。
Only you can decide if marriage is a deal breaker for you.
只有你能決定婚姻是否會破壞關系。
I can't tell you if it's worth breaking up with him if you're happy and have a nice life together. That's for you to decide.
我無法告訴你如果現在你開心而且共享愉快生活，和他分手是否值得。那得由你自己決定。
I have never been divorced, I'll give you that, but I'd marry my wife in every time zone if that's what she wanted.
我從未離婚過，但我可以告訴你，我妻子想在哪個時區結婚，我就去哪個時區。
In my very conventional opinion, I believe one foot in is the same as one foot out.
在我的傳統看法里，我相信一只腳進就有一只腳出。
Greg
格雷格
Marriage is a tradition that has been somewhat imposed on us, and therefore has a lot of critics.
婚姻是頗為強加給我們的一種傳統，因此有很多批評家。
Be that as it may, if someone is as against marriage as you are for it, please make sure there aren't other things going on besides he's just not that into the institution.
盡管如此，如果有人跟你一樣反對婚姻，請確保他不喜歡婚姻除此之外還有什么其他的原因。
