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The Age-Old "I'm Just Not Ready" Excuse
古老的“我還沒準備好”的借口
Dear Greg, I've been dating a guy since I was twenty-three. I'm twenty-eight now.
親愛的格雷格，我23歲開始和一個人戀愛，到現在28歲了。
We started talking about marriage two years ago, and he said he wasn't ready.
我們2年前開始談婚論嫁，他說他還沒準備好。
So we moved in together to help him get "ready."
所以我們搬到一起住來幫助他“準備好”。
We talked about it recently and he said that he still wasn't ready.
我們最近又談了談，但是他說他還是沒準備好。
He reminded me that we're young and we still have a lot of time and there's no need to rush.
他提醒我說我們還年輕，我們還有很多時間，沒必要著急。
In a way, he's right. I'm only twenty-eight and people get married much later these days.
在某方面他說的沒錯。我才28歲，人們現今結婚的越來越晚了。
And sometimes it takes longer for guys to grow up than girls.
有時候男人比女人更晚成熟。
So I want to be understanding, but I'm just not sure how long I'm supposed to wait.
所以我想理解他，但我只是不確定我要等多久。
Does he need more time or is he just not that into marrying me?
他是需要更多時間還是只是不那么想跟我結婚？
Signed Danielle
丹妮爾
Dear Waiting at the Altar, He's right. Why rush? It's only been five years.
親愛的等待在圣壇的你，他是正確的。為什么要著急？只有五年而已。
He's going to know you so much better after ten.
他會在10年后更了解你。
And you have all the time in the world, right?
你有全世界的時間，不是嗎？
You know, in case after ten years he decides he's still not ready.
你知道，以防他在十年后還是沒準備好。
I hate to tell you this, but here's why he feels rushed: He's still not sure you're the one.
我討厭告訴你這個，但這是他為何會覺得匆忙的原因：他還不確定你就是他的真命天女。
Yep, my lovely, I know it's hard to hear, but better to hear it now than ten years from now.
是的，親愛的，我知道這很難接受，但是現在聽總比10年后聽到要好得多。
So you can stay with him and continue to audition for the part of his lucky wife, or you can go find someone who doesn't need a decade or two to realize you're the best thing that ever happened to him.
所以你可以繼續和他在一起，進行成為他幸運妻子的面試，或者找一個人，他不需要10年或20年來發現你是他人生中最美好的存在。
XOXO Greg
親親抱抱，格雷格
I'm not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seems to do the trick.
我還沒準備好。這是世上最常用的借口，但這把戲總是能奏效。
Women love waiting around for men to be ready.
女人們喜歡等待男人們準備好。
You women must enjoy it, because you do it so much of the time.
你們女人一定很喜歡這樣，因為你們大多數時間都在這么做。
Which is ironic to me, since you're the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away.
這在我看來很諷刺，因為你才應該是嘀嗒響著的生物鐘。
Listen, we all know that couple who's been dating for five years...eight years and still hasn't gotten married.
聽著，我們都知道有的情侶戀愛5年或8年都沒結婚。
We know it never works out well for that couple.
我們知道這樣的情侶間進展的并不好。
So how about you stop waiting—and start looking for that guy who can't wait to love you.
所以為何不停止等待呢？開始尋找一個等不及去愛你的人。
