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What’s in Your Rulebook?
你的生活守則里有什么?
Each of us has our own rulebook. Our rulebooks contain the rules from which we each live our lives and see the world. It includes everything from how we want the toilet paper to unfold on the roller to the things we do when no one is watching. It is the book that governs how we make decisions and influences every part of our lives.
我們每個人都有自己的生活守則。我們的守則里包含的規則，來源我們如何生活以及如何看待這個世界。它包羅萬象，從我們如何想要給衛生紙上輥，到當沒有人在旁邊注意我們時，我們如何行事。這本書控制我們如何做出決定，影響著我們生活的每一部分。
Taking the Rules Test
測試你的生活守則
The truth about all of our rulebooks is they contain things that break the law, go against our religions and violate others trust. Now before you get all excited thinking “You’re wrong, Todd. I’m not guilty.” Consider these questions:
我們所有生活守則的真相，包含違反法律的事情,違背我們的宗教信仰，褻瀆他人的信任。現在現別激動地發表你的想法，“托德，你錯了。我是無辜的。”考慮一下如下這些問題:
If you are driving through an empty parking lot late at night and see a stop sign with no car in eyesight, will you come to a complete stop before proceeding?
Do you go over the posted speed limit?
Do you follow your religious leaders’ doctrine/theology without exception?
Are there things that you do privately that your spouse or significant other would not approve of?
Do you ever make personal calls, scan your own emails, or handle your personal matters when your employer is paying you to do your job?
Do you feel that under the right circumstances it is acceptable not to tell someone the whole truth?
Do you ever find yourself exaggerating the facts to persuade others to your point of view?
If we are honest with ourselves, none of us do everything the world’s laws say we should do. We have each chosen to accept some and justify not doing others.
如果你在深夜開車穿過空曠的停車場,看到視野之內，有一個沒有車的停車標志,你會完全停止前行嗎? 你超過最高限速嗎? 你會一概追隨你的宗教領袖的教義或是神學嗎? 會不會私下做一些你的伴侶不會同意的事? 你是否曾經做過類似的事，你的雇主付給你薪水做你正當工作的同時，你去打私人電話,掃描自己的私人電子郵件,或處理你的個人問題? 你認為在合適的情況下，不告訴別人全部的事實真相而有所保留可以接受嗎? 你有沒有發現自己夸大事實來說服他人接受你的觀點呢? 如果我們對自己誠實,就沒有人會做，世上的法律規定我們應該做的一切事情。我們每個人都是有選擇的接受一些,為其他沒做到的辯護。
We ALL have our own set of laws or rules from which we each live our lives. These rules influence everything, from how we live our lives today to who we become tomorrow.
我們所有人都有自己的一套關于生活的法律或規則。這些規則影響一切,從我們今天的生活方式到明天我們成為怎樣的人。
As an example, many of these blog posts represents the rules that govern my life.
作為一個例子,許多這些博客文章描繪了我如何管理生活的準則。
Helping or Hindering Me
是予以幫助還是給予阻礙
Let me encourage you to start paying attention to your rules. As you look at the decisions you are making each day, start questioning them. Ask yourself, “What is my rule for making this decision? Is this rule helping me achieve the things that are important to me, or is it is hurting me?”
我鼓勵你，開始關注你的規則。當你看看每一天你做的決定,開始質疑他們。問問自己,“是哪條生活守則讓我做出這個決定?這個規則事幫助我實現，對我很重要的事情,還是傷害我?”
If you choose to sleep-in rather than get up early to knock out an important project, question your rule for making this decision.
If you feel it’s acceptable to scan your phone for messages while engaged in a conversation, then question your rule.
If you make the choice not to exercise today, question your rule.
If you feel it is okay not to focus on meeting the needs of your spouse, if he or she is not making an effort to meet yours, question your rule.
If you think it is okay to show up five minutes late when meeting a friend for lunch, question your rule.
如果您選擇躺在床上酣眠，而不是早起，全力以赴做一個重要項目,質疑讓你做出這個決定的生活守則。 如果你覺得可以接受，會談過程中不停查看你的電話消息,然后質疑您的守則。 如果今天做出選擇不去運動,質疑你的守則。 如果你覺得，如果你的配偶,他或她沒有作出努力來滿足你的需求,你也不用關注他或她的需求，是可接受的，質疑您的守則。如果你與朋友一起吃午飯，認為可以晚到五分鐘，質疑您的生活守則。
