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Even though Brenda may have felt justified in her anger, her outburst reflected poorly on her ability to remain calm under pressure. She inflicted hurt and embarrassment on her supervisor, and she failed to project the level of professionalism that her employer requires and expects. Consider the other potential consequences:
即使布倫達覺得自己憤怒很正當(dāng)，她的爆發(fā)反映了他極差的高壓下的自控能力。她給領(lǐng)導(dǎo)到來了傷害和尷尬，她沒有拿出雇主需要和期望的專業(yè)水平。請認(rèn)真思考下這件事帶來的其他潛在的后果。
Brenda must apologize if she wishes to repair the damage she has done.She now has a strained working relationship with Doug at best, and possibly an irreparably damaged one.She has lost the respect of her co-workers who now view her differently.She may lose her job or chance of promotion.
如果她想修補帶來的傷害布倫達必須道歉。現(xiàn)在她和道格關(guān)系很緊張，很有可能會彌補不了。她已經(jīng)失去了見證她發(fā)生改變的同僚們的尊重，接下來可能會失去工作和晉升的機會。
I’ve exploded at times in my own life. I know that I have damaged my reputation, not only in the eyes of the person who received the brunt of my anger, but also in the eyes of everyone who bore witness. Even worse, I have done it with my wife. Like many of the lessons I share on Little Things Matter, I learned this one the hard way.
在生活中我也爆發(fā)過很多次。在被我憤怒波及的人以及目睹我這個過程的人眼中我都已經(jīng)自毀聲譽了。更糟糕的是，我對我妻子爆發(fā)過。正如我所分享的很多重要的事情一樣，我體會到這個也是通過一個艱難的方式。
Use Your Awareness to Make the Right Decision
用覺悟去做正確的選擇
The next time you feel the tension rising and you start to think you can’t handle any more of someone or something, take a deep breath and exhale slowly. Pause to consider the damage you might cause to your job, reputation, or relationship if you don’t keep your emotions in check. Use this awareness to make sure you don’t say or do anything you will regret.
下一次你感到緊張感上升，你認(rèn)為你處理不來一些人或事時，深吸一口氣，緩緩呼出來。如果你不能把情感放置合適的位置就停下來想想你可能會給工作、名譽或人際關(guān)系造成的損失。用這樣意識來確保你不會說出或做出后悔的事情。
Warren Buffet— American investor, industrialist, and philanthropist—shares some of his wisdom in this quote: “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.”
美國的投資者、實業(yè)家、慈善家巴菲特分享過他的人生智慧“樹立聲譽需要20年，而摧毀它只需5分鐘。如果你認(rèn)真思考這句話，你在做事時就會與眾不同。
When you find yourself getting upset, challenge yourself to find a way of handling your frustration in a way that makes you proud. One of the things my wife always says when she knows I am upset with someone is “speak in love.” When I consider speaking in love to those who have angered me, it completely changes my attitude because I know it is the right thing to do.
當(dāng)你感到失落時，挑戰(zhàn)自己去尋找一個讓你驕傲的方法來處理這種沮喪。當(dāng)我妻子知道我和別人不愉快時她會經(jīng)常說一句話“用愛和人說話”。當(dāng)我想著用愛和惹我生氣的人交流時，我的態(tài)度完全改變了因為我知道這樣做是對的。
Remember, when you choose to respond rather than react to a difficult situation, you demonstrate to others and yourself that you are in control of your emotions.
記著，當(dāng)你選擇回應(yīng)而不是困境下的自然反應(yīng)時，你向其他人和自己證明了你能控制住自己的情緒。
