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Gay rights are not primarily marriage rights,
同性戀權(quán)益不主要是婚姻權(quán)益，
and for the millions who live in unaccepting places
而對數(shù)以百萬生活在不包容
with no resources,
和缺少資源地方的人們，
dignity remains elusive.
尊嚴(yán)是可望而不可及的。
I am lucky to have forged meaning
我很幸運(yùn)，能夠鑄造意義
and built identity,
和建造身份，
but that's still a rare privilege,
但這是少有的特權(quán)，
and gay people deserve more collectively
同性戀者群體應(yīng)得到的
than the crumbs of justice.
不只是一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的正義。
And yet, every step forward
然而，每點(diǎn)進(jìn)步
is so sweet.
都是甜蜜的。
In 2007, six years after we met,
在2007年，在我和我的伴侶
my partner and I decided
相識(shí)六年后，
to get married.
我們決定結(jié)婚。
Meeting John had been the discovery
遇見約翰讓我找到了
of great happiness
巨大的快樂，
and also the elimination of great unhappiness,
也去除了龐大的不快樂，
and sometimes, I was so occupied
有時(shí)候，我太在乎著
with the disappearance of all that pain
痛苦的消失，
that I forgot about the joy,
而忘了喜悅，
which was at first the less remarkable part of it to me.
它一開始并不是那么的起眼。
Marrying was a way to declare our love
婚姻是我們宣揚(yáng)我們愛的存在
as more a presence than an absence.
而不是缺憾。
Marriage soon led us to children,
婚姻很快把我們引導(dǎo)向孩子，
and that meant new meanings
而這意味著新的意義
and new identities, ours and theirs.
和新的身份，我們的和他們的。
I want my children to be happy,
我要我的孩子們開心，
and I love them most achingly when they are sad.
在他們傷心時(shí)，我最疼他們。
As a gay father, I can teach them
作為一名同性戀的父親，我可以教導(dǎo)他們
to own what is wrong in their lives,
去理解他們生命中的錯(cuò)誤，
but I believe that if I succeed
但我相信如果我成功地
in sheltering them from adversity,
讓他們遠(yuǎn)離逆境，
I will have failed as a parent.
那我身為父親是失敗的。
A Buddhist scholar I know once explained to me
我認(rèn)識(shí)的一位佛教學(xué)者曾向我解釋
that Westerners mistakenly think
西方人錯(cuò)誤地認(rèn)為
that nirvana is what arrives
涅磐降臨在所有疾苦消逝
when all your woe is behind you
只剩下
and you have only bliss to look forward to.
幸福在眼前的時(shí)候。
But he said that would not be nirvana,
但他說這不是涅磐，
because your bliss in the present
因?yàn)槟悻F(xiàn)今的幸福
would always be shadowed by the joy from the past.
總會(huì)被以前的喜悅掩蓋。
Nirvana, he said, is what you arrive at
以他來看，涅磐的降臨，
when you have only bliss to look forward to
是當(dāng)你眼前只有幸福，
and find in what looked like sorrows
而在看起來像是悲傷里
the seedlings of your joy.
也能找到喜悅的種子。
