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If one can afford to treat the other to a meal at an expensive restaurant and the other does not have enough money to do the same, it will cause problems in the relationship.
如果一個人能夠支付起請朋友去昂貴餐廳吃飯的費用，而另一個人卻沒有足夠的錢回請，那么這樣的友誼會產生問題。
Westerns expect friends to be independent.
西方人希望朋友間是相互獨立的。
Western people prefer people to be independent, so they do not feel comfortable in a relationship in which one person is giving more and the other is dependent on what is giving.
因為有了這樣的獨立意識，對于朋友間一方給予多，另一方難以對等給予的這種關系，他們覺得這種友誼會令人不舒服。
Their friendship is mostly a matter of providing emotional support and spending time together.
他們的友誼更多意味著相互給予對方精神上的支持，一起度過一段時間。
A westerner will respond to a friend's trouble by asking "What do you want to do?"
一個西方人在回應朋友的求助時，常會問：“你想怎么做？”
The idea is to help the friend to think out the problem and discover the solution he or she really wants and then to support the solution.
幫助朋友的辦法是思考問題，尋求他或者她確實需要的解決辦法，并且支持對方那么去做。
Chinese friends give each other more concrete help. A Chinese will use personal connections to help a friend get something hard to obtain such as a job, or an appointment with a good doctor.
中國人給予朋友更多具體的幫助。他或者她可能會利用自己的關系幫助朋友取得不容易得到的東西，比如一份工作，約見一位好醫生。
Chinese friends give each other money and might help each other out financially over a long time.
中國人可能會在經濟上給予相互的幫助，比如給對方金錢幫助他或者她度過難關。
Chinese usually expect more from their friends.
中國人期望得到朋友更多的幫助。
In the West, you can certainly ask friend to do something with you, but you recognize that your friend may say no, if he/she gives you a reason.
在西方，你可以問朋友是否可以為你做點什么，但是你會發現他們可能會說不，他或者她可能會給你一個理由。
You would not expect a friend to drop everything to respond to a non-urgent need such as shopping.
你不會指望一個朋友放下手頭的事情陪你做些不要緊的事情，比如購物。
Nor would you expect a friend to recognize and respond to your wishes without stating them.
也不會期待在你沒有跟他們表明的情況下，了解和回應你的愿望。
A friend in China is someone who offers help without waiting to be asked. There are few limits to what you can expect from a friend.
一個中國朋友當你遇到困難時，會主動伸出援助之手。你對朋友的期望的限制很少。
You can feel free to tell your friend what he/she can or should do to help or please you.
你可以隨時告訴你的朋友他或者她應該怎么來幫助你或者讓你高興。
