1. The Criticizing
1.批評(píng)

Criticism can be helpful when a partner points out a problem the other person in the relationship doesn’t notice. It’s how healthy relationships work. But once a problem ends so should the critique. With a criticizer in a toxic relationship everything the other person does is a target that can be attacked, and often in front of other people. This goes beyond playful banter: this criticism is overly harsh and causes real harm. Behind a chronic criticizer is a person whose low self-esteem leads them to find faults in their partner because of their own insecurities. Criticizers need to fix themselves first, or else they may not have partners to criticize for long.
戀愛(ài)中，當(dāng)你指出了戀人忽視了的問(wèn)題時(shí)，這種批評(píng)是有益的，這也是讓你們的關(guān)系保持健康的方法。但一旦問(wèn)題已經(jīng)被解決了，就應(yīng)該停止批評(píng)。在一段不良的關(guān)系中，愛(ài)批評(píng)的那個(gè)人會(huì)逮住對(duì)方所做的任何事情進(jìn)行攻擊，而且常常是當(dāng)著其他人的面。這就超出了開(kāi)玩笑的范圍：這種批評(píng)過(guò)于苛刻，會(huì)給別人造成真正的傷害。這種愛(ài)批評(píng)別人的人，其實(shí)他們本身很自卑，他們總是抱怨自己的伴侶是因?yàn)樗麄冏陨砣狈Π踩小?ài)抱怨的人首先需要改掉這個(gè)毛病，否則他們無(wú)法與別人長(zhǎng)期維持一段關(guān)系。 內(nèi)容來(lái)自:可可英語(yǔ) http://www.ccdyzl.cn/read/201406/306208.shtml