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Break up can be tough. Sometimes, it's even hard for both sides—after all, breaking up is not easy to do. It hurts to throw away your story with someone—all the good memories and the dreams and plans you two had for the future. Mending a broken heart takes time and patience. But you must face the fact that your heart is broken. It doesn't matter if you wish things could be different or if you even regret something you did. It doesn't matter if you think you shouldn't have become that involved with that person or if you're angry and looking for revenge. The fact is: Your heart is broken! This relationship advice can help.
浪漫的關系可能會惡化，甚至可能最終以分手糟糕地結束。在這個“悲傷的結局”中最壞的事是，至少一人會心碎。渡過分手可能是困難的。有時，這甚至對雙方都是困難的——畢竟，分手不是件容易做到的事。忘記你與某人的故事令人傷心——所有你們的美好回憶、夢想和計劃。修補一顆破碎的心需要時間和耐心。但是你必須面對的事實是，你的心碎了。如果你想那本可不同，或者后悔你做過的某些事，沒關系。如果你認為你根本不該與那個人發生關系，或者生氣和想要復仇，沒關系。事實是： 你的心碎了！ 以下關系建議可以幫助你。
Even if the only thing you want to do is win your partner back - and by the way, if you're interested in doing this then I strongly recommend The Magic of Making Up - when a relationship is truly over, it's time to begin the healing process.
即使你唯一想做的事情就是贏得你的伴侶回來—順便說一下，如果你有興趣做這個的話我強烈推薦 The Magic of Making Up 這本書—如果一個關系確實結束了，是時候開始治愈了。
So now what? Are you going to sit and cry for the rest of your life or do you intend to do something? Was that ending your fault or are you not the one to blame? Is there something you can do to fix it? Is there something you should stop and think about so you can act in a better way the next time 'round? Is mending a broken heart even possible? Of course it is! Getting over a break up is possible. There are many things you can do to heal a broken heart! And the best thing is: It all depends on you! Here's how to forget someone in 8 steps.
那現在怎么辦呢？你要在你的余生坐在地上哭泣，還是做些別的事情？這是你的錯，還是你沒錯？有沒有什么事，值得你停下來想想，可以修復它？有沒有什么事，值得你停下來想想，可以亡羊補牢？有沒有可能，修補一顆破碎的心？當然可能！越過分手這道坎是可能的。你可以做許多事來治愈一顆破碎的心！最重要的事是：這完全取決于你！下面是如何忘記某人的八個步驟：
Step 1
Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!
第一步
哭出你想訴說的一切！ 當我們受傷時，哭泣是正常的（也是好的）。永遠不要覺得哭泣讓你顯得弱小，或者覺得尷尬，因為哭泣是正常的，哭泣是正確的！在你哭泣的時候，你部分的憤怒和傷害感會消失，因此你可以覺得不那么消沉。你可以把自己鎖在一個房間里，如果你想，還可以聽一些悲傷的音樂…但當你悲傷時，哭出來，以讓悲傷消失！重要的一點是：擺脫痛苦！讓痛苦離開！
Step 2
Get busy!
When you're trying to get someone out of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what are you going to do—the important thing is to find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think about the person you're trying to forget.
第二步
忙碌起來！
當你試圖讓別人從你的腦子離開，你需要把別的東西放進在里面。換句話說，……忙碌起來！途徑不重要，關鍵是要分心。看電影、看話劇、旅行。你打算做什么都沒關系——重要的是找些事情做。找一個愛好，找一些你喜歡做的事情，讓你的大腦忙起來。當你的腦子忙起來，你的大腦就會沒有時間和空間來思考試圖忘記的人。
Step 3
Spend some time with your friends. Friends are always great to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringing the topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!
第三步
多花些時間與你的朋友在一起。 在這種情形下，與一些朋友在一起總是最好的！朋友可以讓你對自我感覺良好，讓你容易分心。他們肯定會讓你發笑，讓你覺得你自己遠遠更重要！唯一的警告是：要求他們不要談論你正試圖忘記的那個人。如果他們的每段對話里都有那個人，你就會很難忘記，這不會讓你笑，而會讓你哭。所以要誠實，并要求他們不要談論它！
