7. Discuss the Big Things in Life 討論生活中的大事

　　When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery shopping or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Try this: one night, while you're in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner cares deeply about – the government, a sportsman or woman – something that will get his or her dander up. He or she will disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. And keep it rolling!

　　戀愛的時候，你們有沒有花大把的時間來談論時事或者探究生命的意義？如果現在你們只會談些瑣碎小事，像去雜貨店買東西或者新沙發要花多少錢這類的，那你們就需要在你們的感情里再次添加些有意義的對話。不如試試這個：有一天，當你坐在電視前或者在車里的時候，就你的愛人很關注的事情（政府或者運動員都可以）發表一些挑釁的言論（不要語出傷人），講一些可能會讓他生氣發怒的話。他/她肯定不會同意你的觀點啦，這樣談話才能繼續下去嘛，繼續聊吧。