3. Foster a discussion that's independent of you. Here's one way the Internet can come in handy. "Many times people looking for advice share each others' questions and concerns," Cenedella observes. "If you set up a blog or a discussion group on a career site or an online social network, you usually find that people will address helpful comments to each other. You can and should weigh in, of course, but you don't need to be there all the time."

    培養獨立討論，讓自己脫身。這一方法可以充分利用互聯網。塞內德爾稱：“大多數情況下，征求意見的人面臨相同的問題和擔憂。如果能夠在求職網站或在線社交網站中建立一個博客或討論小組，你會發現，人們可以為彼此的問題給出有用的答復。當然，你也可以，而且也必須親自參與其中，但不必始終耗在那里。”

    4. Don't angst over it. Although your desire to help people is laudable, if you find that you just can't respond to all requests within the time limit you've set for yourself, "don't feel guilty," Cenedella advises. "Everyone knows you're incredibly busy. It's why they want your recommendation or your advice in the first place."

    不必為此感到焦慮。幫助他人的愿望值得贊揚，但如果無法在自己設定的時限內回復所有的請求，塞內德爾建議人們“不必因此感到愧疚。大家都知道你（肩負重任），忙得不可開交，畢竟，這也是他們希望獲得你的推薦或建議的原因所在。”

    For requests you need to turn down for whatever reason, "create a stock response you can email that says something like, 'Sorry, but due to time pressures, I can't honor requests for…,'" he suggests. "There are only so many hours in the day. No one's going to punish you for that."

   他建議，對于那些不論出于何種原因，必須回絕的請求，“可以在電子郵件中設定固定的回復，比如‘很抱歉，由于時間原因，本人無法處理您關于……的請求。’每天的時間是有限的。沒人會為此說你的不是。”