4. 性（下降趨勢(shì)） Four: Sex (GOING DOWN)

現(xiàn)如今，因?yàn)樾陨疃バ睦碜稍兊那閭H少之又少。但是，很多情侶只因?yàn)樘鄱鵁o法享受性愛，甚至沒精力擔(dān)心這個(gè)問題。當(dāng)性愛變成一個(gè)大問題時(shí)，最常聽到的抱怨就是一個(gè)人已經(jīng)睡去，而另外一個(gè)卻很困惑、生氣。

Fewer couples go to counselling today to complain about their love life. However, many couples are simply too tired to enjoy sex and some can't even find the energy to worry about it. When sex is a major issue, the most common complaint is that one partner has 'gone off it' - leaving the other bewildered and angry.

解決方法：不要陷入一個(gè)"全或無"的陷阱：要么做愛，要么冷淡對(duì)待。要保持身體上的親密--即使你真的很累--可以親吻、愛撫、擁抱。這些動(dòng)作本身也很令人愉悅，而不僅僅只是性愛的前戲。

Solve it: Don't fall into the 'all or nothing' trap of either intercourse or a cold shoulder. Keep physically intimate - even when you're too tired - by kissing, stroking and cuddling. This is pleasurable in its own right, not just as foreplay.