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每個人都向往永恒的愛情。而事實上，日常生活中有許許多多的"絆腳石"正在悄然無聲地影響著戀人們的愛情。認識到這些“絆腳石”(wrecker)后，我們又能采取哪些措施呢？
英國《每日郵報》顧問Andrew Marshall問道：“愛情的保質期比以前更短了么？人們分手的頻率更快了么？”閱讀下文，專家將為你解析愛情變量表中的上升和下降趨勢，教你如何阻止愛情變質。
Relationships are changing faster than ever before? and so are the triggers for break-ups, says counsellor Andrew Marshall. Here is the authoritative guide to what's going up and what's going down in the argument charts and how to stop your relationship being derailed:
1. 降低期望值（上升趨勢） One: Low Expectations (GOING UP)
我們“期望”愛情失敗。“男人沒一個好東西”和“女人都神經錯亂”的想法已經從好友間的玩笑變成了自我應驗的預言。我們等著新男友/女友犯錯誤，然后再將錯誤放大。
We expect relationships to fail. The "all men are bastards" mind set and "all women are bunny boilers" mentality has spread from being a joke with our mates into a self-fulfilling prophecy. We wait for our new boyfriend or girlfriend to trip up and then zoom in on their mistakes.
解決方法：如今，人們對不完美事物的容忍度大不如前。但是，如果我們能秉持堅持不懈的態度，更加相信自己，或許，我們不僅能解決這些潛在問題，更能收獲一份親密、美好的愛情。
Solve it: Today we are less willing to tolerate anything that is not 100 per cent perfect. Yet if we all hung in longer and believed in ourselves more, we would address the underlying issues and reap the rewards of a truly intimate and satisfying relationship.
