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When I recently met former first lady Rosalynn Carter, who has been married to Jimmy Carter for 63 years. I couldn't resist asking how they made such a perfect union.
我最近見到前第一夫人羅莎琳•卡特，她已經(jīng)嫁給吉米.卡特63年了。我忍不住問她，為什么婚姻能如此美滿。
Mrs. Carter replied that she and her husband had gone through two periods that were tough. 'First, well, let me just say: Don't ever write a book with your husband,' she said.
羅莎琳回答，她和丈夫也經(jīng)歷過兩段煎熬的時(shí)期。“這么說吧，首先要記住一點(diǎn)：千萬不要跟自己的丈夫合作寫一本書，”她說道。
She went on to explain that the period after she and Mr. Carter left the White House and returned to their hometown of Plains, Ga., also put a strain on their relationship. Her husband felt adrift after failing to win re-election, she said. He would often interrupt her while she was at work in her home office, asking her to have a cup of coffee with him and chat.
羅莎琳解釋說，她和吉米•卡特離開白宮回到佐治亞州Plains的家鄉(xiāng)后，兩人的關(guān)系一度緊張。吉米•卡特沒能再度當(dāng)選總統(tǒng)，因此感到無所事事，經(jīng)常到羅莎琳在家辦公的房間來打攪她工作，讓她跟他一起聊天喝咖啡。
'We learned that it was important to our marriage for each of us to always have our own work, our own projects,' said Mrs. Carter, 82.
“我們發(fā)現(xiàn)，要想維持好婚姻關(guān)系，必須雙方都各有工作去做，有項(xiàng)目要去完成，”現(xiàn)年82歲的羅莎琳說道。
I asked my parents, who just celebrated their 46th wedding anniversary, why their marriage lasted so long. My dad said he had no idea. 'Your mother did all the hard work,' he admitted. Mom agreed, and divulged her marital secret: 'forgiveness.'
我父母最近剛剛慶祝了46周年的結(jié)婚紀(jì)念日，我問他們?yōu)槭裁椿橐瞿艹掷m(xù)這么長時(shí)間。我爸爸說，他也不知道，但他承認(rèn)：“全靠你媽媽維持得好。”我媽媽對(duì)此深表同意，并說出了她維系婚姻的成功秘訣：“寬容。”
Happily married people believe they married their soul mates, and for good reason. Even marrying the right person gets you only part way. Ask the couples themselves, and they'll likely credit some combination of hard work and sheer blind luck. No one says that every day, or even every year, was rosy. And there are plenty of long marriages that are unhappy. But there are some strategies that happily married couples say work:
婚姻幸福的人相信，他們找到了自己的靈魂伴侶，而且他們有充分的理由在一起。不過，即使找對(duì)了人，革命也尚未成功。問問這些快樂的夫妻，他們告訴你成功的婚姻還需要雙方的努力和一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)運(yùn)氣。沒人會(huì)說婚姻的每一天、甚至每一年都像玫瑰一樣美好。有不少婚姻雖然長久，但并不快樂。不過，婚姻幸福的夫妻還是給出了一些成功的秘訣。
