Q:您寫道，男性與女性產生感情的過程是不同的？請問到底是如何運作的呢？

A:鏡像神經元系統[MNS]，能讓我們通過看到他人的臉部表情，來了解某人當時的感覺。當我們看著一個嬰兒或者其他的我們關注的人，女性對此引起的共鳴會比男性長得多。這并不是說男性就不會如此。事實上，他們也會。他們的鏡像神經元系統會迅速作用，快速閃過正在發生的事情。然后他們會轉換到另一個叫做顳部頂骨連接部位的系統，在那里他們會在整個大腦電路里展開google式搜索，來尋找解決問題的方法。

這一類的互動在來我辦公室的夫妻間非常常見：妻子只希望丈夫在為她提供問題的解決方案前，能夠談談她關于這件事情的感受。但他認為，好吧，到底沉迷這些感受有什么好處？我認為女人們忽略的一點是，男人們真的希望令到我們快樂。他是解決問題者。

Q：You write that men and women process emotions differently. How？

A：The mirror- neuron system [MNS] allows us to see a facial expression and know what that person is feeling. When we are looking at an infant or another person we care about, women will resonate with that feeling a lot longer than men. This is not to say that men don't do this. They do. They start out very quickly in the MNS and get a quick flash of what's going on. Then they switch into another system called the temporal parietal junction system, which allows them to start Google-searching their entire brain circuit for ways to fix the problem。

This type of interaction goes on lots and lots between the couples that come to my office: she just wants him to talk to her about how she's feeling about something before he launches into giving her the solution. And he feels like, well, what good will it do just to wallow in the feelings I think one of the things that women don't focus on or appreciate is that our men really want to make us happy. He's the fix-it man。