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Say you have been inactive for several years and now wanted to get fit. You'd need a plan of action, Parinello says. Maybe you'd start reviewing your successes: What has motivated you in the past? Which sport seems made for your body? Next, you'd study your options. You might consider a spa weekend as a jump-start, but you'd also check out the nearest aerobics classes, survey potential workout partners, locate the local hiking trail. Then you'd try those options one at a time avoiding the temptation to do everything in one great rush. Periodically, over the next weeks and months, you'd ask yourself how you are doing and adjust your plan accordingly.
你或許會從回顧你的成功經歷開始：過去是什么一直激勵著你？哪種運動適合你？下一步你要研究一下你的可選項。你可能會想到周末去泡一下溫泉作為預熱啟動，同時也會查一下最近的有氧健身課程，找一起鍛煉的伙伴，考察一下附近的徒步旅行路線。接下來你就要一次嘗試一項，避免一下子做完所有項。在接下來的幾周或幾個月里，定期地問問自己進行得如何，然后根據情況調整計劃。
Using a similar methodical, step-by-step technique can earn you more money, help you get better at your job, or even improve your relationships. If the process doesn't sound appealing or even possible, ask yourself why. "Change takes a commitment to yourself that's difficult for some people," says Ditta M. Oliker, PhD, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles. "Maybe you don't trust that you have the discipline for self-improvement. Maybe you are afraid of success."
用類似的井井有條、循序漸進的方法可以讓你賺到更多的錢，有助于你把工作做得更好， 甚至能夠改善你的人際關系。如果這個過程聽起來不夠吸引人，甚至不可能實現，自問一下原因。“改變需要你對自己作出承諾，這對一些人來說很困難。或許你不相信自己有自我提高所需的自制力，或許你懼怕成功。”洛杉磯一家私人診所的臨床心理學家迪塔·M.奧利克博士說。
