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There is nothing wrong with wanting children to do their best, but the problem is: parents in search of excellence are pushing their children too far and too fast.
希望孩子們竭盡全力并沒有什么不對，但問題是：追求卓越的家長們正把他們的孩子逼得太遠也太快了。
Super Kids and Super Problems
超級孩子與超級問題
David Elkind
戴維·埃爾金德
Not so long ago, most parents wanted their kids to be like everybody else. Theywere often as upset if a child were precocious as they were if the child were slow. Precocity was looked upon as being bad for the child's psychological health. The assumption was "early ripe,early rot."
不久前，大多數家長還在希望他們的孩子像別的孩子一樣。如果一個孩子早熟，他們往往會憂心忡忡，就像孩子反應遲鈍會讓他們心煩一樣。早熟被看作是不利于孩子心理健康的。人們的想法是“早熟早爛”。
Now that has changed. For many parents today there is no such thing as going too fast, and their major concern is that their child stay ahead of the pack. Far from presuming that precocity has bad effects psychologically, they believe that being above the norm brings manybenefits. The assumption is "early ripe, early rich!"
現在的觀念已經變了。對今天的很多家長來說，根本就沒有“走得太快”這回事。他們主要關心的事是他們的孩子處于領先地位。他們非但根本不相信早熟在心理上有什么壞的影 響，反而認為高于平均水平會帶來諸多好處。他們的想法是:“早熟早富!”
The major consequence of this new parenting psychology is that many contemporary parents are putting tremendous pressure on children to perform at ever-earlier ages. A first grade teacher told me that an angry mother screamed at her because she had given the woman's son a "Satisfactory." "How is he ever going to get into M.I.T. if you give him a 'Satisfactory?'" the mother wailed.
這種養育孩子的新心理產生了一種重要的后果，即許多當代的父母正在對孩子施加巨大 的壓力，讓他們在越來越早的年齡就有出色表現。一位一年級的老師告訴我，一個憤怒的母親曾對著她大聲喊叫，因為她給了這位婦女的兒子一個“令人滿意的”評語。這位母親大聲地抱怨說:“如果你給他一個‘令人滿意的,評語，他以后還怎么進麻省理工學院呢?”
