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Keeping a marriage together takes effort.And care.
婚姻是需要經營的，還需要花心思。
And maybe even watching classic romance movies, like The Way We Were or Husbands and Wives.
有時候還需要看看經典的浪漫電影，比如《往日情懷》或《夫妻間》等等。
And this is because of the conversations such movies can start.
也許甚這是因為此類電影可以引發對劇情的交流。
That's the finding from a study in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology.
這來自于發表在《咨詢和診斷心理學》雜志上的一篇研究報道。
Psychologists found that encouraging couples to watch romance flicks and then discuss them cut the divorce rate in half.
心理學家們發現鼓勵夫妻一起看愛情片然后討論一下能夠降低一半離婚率。
The researchers divided 174 newlywed couples into three programs:
研究人員們將174名新婚夫婦分三組進行如下活動：
active listening, where one spouse listens and then paraphrases back what they heard; or compassion training, doing random acts of kindness for your partner; or watching a movie a week for a month.
積極傾聽組，夫妻雙方中一人負責傾聽另一方談話然后重新演繹出對方所言主要內容；同情心訓練組，其中一人對另一人做隨機的想到的友好行為；或者是二人每周一起看一部電影持續時間為一個月。
The movie-viewing couples discussed each film after watching it, guided by questions about the characters.
觀看電影的一組中夫妻二人還要在觀影結束后互相討論一番電影情節等內容，條件是有關角色的問題。
Questions like:Were they able to open up and tell each other how they really felt, or did they tend to just snap at each other with anger?
比如這樣的問題：他們能否開誠布公的討論彼此之間的真實感覺，或者是否他們只是要氣憤的大聲爭論彼此的不同觀點？
All three programs worked very well, dropping the divorce rate after three years to 11 percent, versus 24 percent for couples who did no therapy.
所有三組順利進行著互動活動，三年后離婚率下降了11% ，對照組則是沒有進行治療的夫婦，離婚率為24%。
But the movie program is much more accessible and cheaper than counseling.
而影音互動活動不但使人容易接受而且比心理咨詢花費少多了。
The researchers note the magic is not really in the movies, but rather the time that couples take to think about behavior.
研究人員們評論說，不可思議的結果真的不是由于電影本身，而是夫妻雙方開始思考彼此行為的這段時間起到重要作用。
But hey, maybe sitting together in the dark helped too.
那么，嘿，倆人同坐在黑暗中也許也會有效吧。
