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But three minutes later, I go to the fridge again, just to make sure it's still there.
但是在三分鐘以后 我回到冰箱那看蛋糕還在不在
Why? Those of you who know my brother understand why. My brother is much bigger than I am.
為什么 你們中認識我兄弟的都明白 我兄弟塊頭比我大多了
And he likes my mom's cooking no less than I do.
他對我母親的廚藝的喜愛一點不在我之下
So I was just making sure that it was still there. And it was.
所以我去確定蛋糕還在那 確實還在
And then 10 minutes later, I had to go back because my brother had just disappeared from my eyes a few minutes.
再過了十分鐘 我必須再去檢查一遍 因為我兄弟在我視線內消失了幾分鐘
I thought he went to the fridge. So I opened the fridge again and it was still there. So I was relieved.
我以為他到冰箱那去了 所以我又打開了冰箱一次 蛋糕還在 然后我感到一陣輕松
And then about 5 minutes later I had to go back to the fridge.
大約五分鐘以后我又回到冰箱那里
I opened the door and two minutes later, there was no cake.
我打開冰箱門 兩分鐘以后蛋糕就不見了
All or nothing. Either I don't touch it, or I devour it. This is the schema that a perfectionist has.
要么全部要么沒有 要么我不碰 要么我吃完 這就是完美主義者持有的基模
It's not "OK, let me have a slice of it." It's nothing or all.
不會說 “好吧 我就吃一塊” 要么不吃要么吃完
And this is the schema that perfectionists have: either I'm a supermodel or I'm overweight.
所以這就是完美主義者的基模：我要么成為超級模特 要么超重
All or nothing. And it's destructive. It hurts so much on so many levels. As opposed to the healthy approach.
要么全部要么沒有 這是很有破壞力的 這會對我們產生各個層次的嚴重傷害 相對于健康的方式而言
OK, so I'll have a slice. So I'll have a little bit. OK, so I gained a couple of pounds-big deal?!
好的 我就吃一小塊 好的 我重了幾磅 這算大事嗎
I'm human. I'm not a machine. I'm not a Barbie. Or Ken.
我是人 我不是機器 也不是芭比娃娃 更不是肯
I caught myself there. Hurts self-esteem. Why? Because…
我說錯話了 這很傷自尊 為什么 因為
Nathaniel Branden who writes about self-esteem-we'll talk a lot about him in that lecture 3 weeks from now.
納撒尼爾·布蘭登寫過很多關于自尊的文字 我們在未來三周內將會更多地講到他
