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When I enter Pete's home, he's in the bedroom with Jimmie's body, sitting on the bed stroking her hair.
我走進皮特的家，吉米躺在床上，皮特撫摸著她的頭發。
I sit beside him. He's a big, rough-looking man with a crooked nose and muscular, tattooed forearms.
我坐在他旁邊，他塊頭很大，長相粗獷，鷹鉤鼻，前臂上有紋身，肌肉發達。
"I let her down," he says. "Spent my time working. Never told her I loved her."
“我讓她失望了，”他說?！拔乙恢痹诠ぷ?，從來沒有告訴過她我愛她?！?/div>
Rather than let him get sucked into a narrative of guilt, I ask what he did do.
為了不讓他陷入自責，我問他做過的事。
He describes spending long days at the oncology clinic,
他描述了在腫瘤診所度過的漫長日子，
building a wheelchair ramp so she could smell her rosebushes,
他做了一個輪椅坡道好讓吉米聞到玫瑰花香，
working extra shifts to pay for her medications.
他加班給吉米支付醫藥費。
Using memories like these, we zero in on how he'd expressed his love—
憑借著這些記憶，我們明白了皮特表達愛意的方式——
not through words but through gestures of affection and acts of loyalty and sacrifice.
不是言語，而是愛意，忠誠和犧牲。
We talk throughout the night.
我們徹夜長談。
Eventually Pete lets me call his buddy Tank, who shows up just as the funeral home people arrive.
最終皮特讓我給他的好友湯克打電話，湯克是和殯儀館一起來的那個人。
Pete, Tank, and I discuss Pete's threats and what's driving them.
我和皮特、湯克討論了皮特的危險處境和原因。
I talk about coping strategies and optimizing support.
我提出了應對策略和優化方案。
But these textbook recommendations take a back seat to the simple imperative
但這些建議不及簡單地——
to open my heart and be fully present to someone who's hurting.
敞開心扉，全身心撫慰受傷的人。
And that, I've come to believe, is what Claude was talking about:
我開始相信，這就是克勞德所說的：
the power of moving toward another's suffering rather than away.
懷抱而不是遠離所帶來的力量。
Driving home, exhausted, I reflect on the words Tank left with me.
驅車回家時，我疲憊不堪，想起了湯克留給我的那句話。
"You got him through the night, Scott," he said.
“斯科特，你讓他熬過了這一夜，”湯克說。
"Me and my wife'll take it from here. I promise."
“我和我妻子會重新出發，我保證?！?/div>
I feel sad for Pete's loss. But I know he'll be surrounded by love.
我為皮特失去所愛之人感到難過，但我知道包圍他的是滿滿的愛。
And in my mind's eye, I see Claude lifting his beer bottle and giving me one of his crooked smiles.
在腦海中，我看到克勞德舉起啤酒瓶，向我露出一絲狡黠的微笑。
| 重點單詞 | 查看全部解釋 | |||
| eventually | [i'ventjuəli] |
想一想再看 adv. 終于，最后 |
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| guilt | [gilt] |
想一想再看 n. 罪行，內疚 |
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| attest | [ə'test] |
想一想再看 v. 證明，作證，為 ... 作證 |
聯想記憶 | |
| tank | [tæŋk] |
想一想再看 n. 坦克，箱，罐，槽，貯水池 |
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| affection | [ə'fekʃən] |
想一想再看 n. 慈愛，喜愛，感情，影響 |
聯想記憶 | |
| narrative | ['nærətiv] |
想一想再看 n. 敘述，故事 |
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| reflect | [ri'flekt] |
想一想再看 v. 反映，反射，歸咎 |
聯想記憶 | |
| loyalty | ['lɔiəlti] |
想一想再看 n. 忠誠，忠心 |
聯想記憶 | |
| imperative | [im'perətiv] |
想一想再看 n. 命令，誡命，需要，祈使語氣 |
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| sacrifice | ['sækrifais] |
想一想再看 n. 犧牲，供俸，祭品 |
聯想記憶 |
